“Femininity is for Sissies”: or, the Queering of Forced Feminization
By KittyStryker on March 20, 2014
A book I really enjoyed on this topic was “Why Are Faggots So Afraid Of Faggots?”, which speaks to male femme experiences really well. I was told on Tumblr that as a queer woman I’m not allowed to identify as femme because it’s a lesbian term, something that I sideeyed rather strongly. I do believe that anyone can identify as femme and self-define what femme means to them. Maybe it’s that lack of critique that ultimately makes me resent the whole “sissification” thing. I would love to see masculine-leaning folks exploring femme playfully and with curiosity, rather than from a place of deep shame and misogyny. I think that trans* misogyny absolutely comes from the same root, that femme is bad, that to “choose” to be a woman is bad. And it’s past time to critique that attitude.