Finding Your Personal Confidence; Living The Life You Imagine

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. ~ Henry David Thoreau

Do you ever wonder why some people are so talented/ charismatic/ interesting/ creative/ (fill in the blank here), and you are… well, you? 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying being you, err, me… is bad.  I like me.  I’m smart, witty, kind, caring toward others and very loyal.  I love my husband and kids, I believe in god and I have a moral compass that I try to live by. 

But I also know what I’m not.  I’m not crafty.  I can’t make a cute Christmas gift out of a paper cup and some buttons (at least not one that I wouldn’t be mortified to show people).  I’m not photogenic in ANY sense; even on a great hair day I look awful in pictures.  I can’t sing or play an instrument, I am not good at trying to sell things to people, and if Martha Stewart came to my house, she would fold her arms across her chest, tap her foot and say, “Tsk, tsk, tsk.”

I wish I could say it ain’t so.  I would love to be good at all these things.  In fact, just turn on the t.v. and you can see any number of people who are.  Charismatic people with not just one phenomenal talent but several; actors who are rock stars on their days off, singers who (sometimes) aren't half bad when they act, famous personalities that can cook and run their own shoe and handbag line. 

Ok, I better stop.  Do I sound jealous?

Well, maybe a little.  The truth is, everybody would like to be oozing talent from every pore and have everything they touch turn to gold.  And while that may not happen for all of us, we are the author of our own life, and we have the option of making our own gold.  So, rather than compare myself to other people and get intimedated into inaction, I'm going to launch myself into action and be inspired by the confidence of others.

If I want to be more stylish, I can invest my time and maybe a little of my treasure in becoming more stylish.  Check out a magazine on how to properly wear a scarf or layer shirts.  Switch up that purse or wear the shoes I've been saving for the right occasion, even if I'm just running to the grocery store.  If I want to be crafty, I can find a good craft blog on line, they have step by step directions.  So what if it takes me longer than the projected 15 minutes.  Or take a photography class.  Learn to play an instrument.  Learn from the confidence and talents of others instead of letting others success dissuade me from trying.  Just because we aren't (fill in the blank again), doesn't mean we can’t eventually be.  You may not end up the next celebrity chef on FoodNetwork, but you may feel pretty great about yourself when you finally cook that meal your husband and kids can’t stop raving about.

At 43, I just took up playing the viola.  I bit the bullet, called my son’s middle school music teacher and asked for a tutor for lessons – for me.  Why, you ask?  Because I wanted to.  Because I thought it would be a cool hobby that I would enjoy.  Because I like the sound of the music and it makes me feel creative and happy.

Nobody says we have to be talentless hacks.  It took the movie stars/ rock stars/ authors time and effort to get where they are.  Our lives are our own, we get to put pen to paper and write the words we want to hear.

So maybe I won’t be featured by the Vienna Philharmonic anytime soon, but that’s not really what it’s about, is it.  It’s about setting our own goals in our personal life and then having the courage to reach for the things we want, without comparing ourself to others.  I don’t want to be someone else, I just want to be a better me.

I want to live the life I have imagined.