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I don't have any social anxieties. But I did (and slightly still do) have a bit of ummm, how do you say this......" I aint gonna speak if she won't" disorder. It really is a disorder because who does that? We all do, especially us black women. You know exactly what I am talking about, "she sees me, if she wants to speak she will come over here" Don't look bewildered-you do it too. I am starting to get a feel again for what I am blogging about and this is something you should keep in mind if you visit again. Doing Sowell is a lifestyle, not only attainable by marrying someone with the last name Sowell, ( note: my husband is taken BUT I might be looking into a Polygamist lifestyle because the fact that we share everything means in-house babysitting*genius*) but in your everyday actions. I don't really give any insight as to how I, Mrs. Sowell am doing and how I do it. I showcase, the kidlets and the material things but there is so much more to it. I have cut out so much negativity from my life in the last few years; I am so drama-free that at times when I indulge in Real Housewives of Atlanta, I cringe and change the channel quick fast because I'm scared I might get sucked back up into some type of drama. I plan on remaining drama-free. I do not think everyone has to like each other but I think we should all respect one another. There are people I meet that I know instantaneously whether we will hit it off or not. And then some that my blood does not take to at all. It does not mean I dislike the person, it just means we won't be friends.
I met a lot of women at the Blog Her conference. A lot. All races, all colors, all nationalities. Some very briefly. Some over a nice glass of wine. One even agreed to let me stay with her whenever I am in Brooklyn. I extended my hand, they shook. We exchanged business cards. I talked, some listened. I talked, some looked uneasy. I listened, some did not talk. I reached out and I made a lifetime connection with some. I love meeting people. I have my core group of friends and family that I have known since Jesus was in shortpants but I am not limited to just them. You know some people say " I do not need anymore friends, I have all the friends I need" I beg to differ. I want to connect with as many people as possible because it is only through meeting and engaging with people that you become a more well-rounded individual. People teach us things about life, love, even ourselves that we may not have known before. I want to learn so much more.
I had apprehensions about going. I blogged about it and she commented. She did not even know me but was already so welcoming. As I stood up on line waiting for my taxi to the airport, I spoke first to two women on line. I wanted to know if any of them were interested in sharing a cab. It turns out only one was going my way and she took me up on my offer. We chatted. I punched her when I saw a punch buggy, (she was startled at first but after I explained she was cool) We made a connection. I would have never met her if I did not speak first. She thanked me for that. I would not have met a ton of you, if I did not speak first. I am so glad I did.
I updated my blog roll to the left. I have so many business cards to still go through so it will be a work in progress. I have different categories, my faves are people with whom I feel I connected with. They might not feel the same way(LOL) but I will check their blogroll to see if they did. But it is not all about who lists who first, it is about taking the time to acknowledge when you have encountered someone that you felt was worthwhile. Maybe it was something they did, something they said or something they wore. If you felt inspired by them, let them know. It does not have to work both
