Five Myths About Losing Your Virginity

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MYTH #3: The hymen is there to tell if a woman is a virgin or not.

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FALSE: No one really knows what hymens are or what they’re there for. One theory is that they were a genetic deformity that was accidentally spread through many cultures when women with intact hymens were preferred for marriage. Another theory is that it served some purpose as a fetus, perhaps to prevent bacteria from going into the vagina. But as far as we know, they serve no purpose.

Also, the hymen can break in a number of ways– from horseback riding to just slowly wearing down over time. I knew a girl who broke hers by falling between the bars on a trampoline. We might have teased her about her first boyfriend being a trampoline, but it didn't make her impure or turn her into a bad person. And it definitely didn't mean she had sex with a trampoline.

Hymens come in all different shapes and sizes. Most of the time, they don’t even cover the entire vaginal opening, so menstrual blood can still leave the body. If they do cover the entire vaginal opening, a doctor will need to correct that to make both menstruation and intercourse less painful.

Not even a doctor can tell if you are a virgin by looking at your hymen/how big your vagina is. There is only one comprehensive test a doctor can do to tell if you’re a virgin.

Doctor: Are you a virgin?

You: Yes/No.

That’s it. That’s the only way. You don’t have a, “Seal pops if fresh,” lid on your cervix.

No Seal Pops If Fresh Lid on Your Cervix


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