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Sparkle (1)
I called it The Great Drought. The economy was crashing and had taken our sex with it. I spent hours glued to the television watching the market, trying to determine whether maybe, just maybe, the conditions would allow for a seduction.
Finally, an opportunity arose. The Feds were taking action and not all seemed lost. I was resolute. We would have sex that night. I threw on a playlist of perfectly slutty songs, ran a bath and followed it with an emulsion in coconut oil (the island girl secret to skin you just can't quit touching). I made myself up like a porn star. Slipped on lingerie, stockings, fuck-me pumps.
“I am a pleasure instrument,” I reminded the mirror, applying mascara to my newly permed eyelashes. "Every hole on this body is entirely at your disposal. My body serves no other purpose than that of our pleasure."
When I appeared at the door, he was sitting in front of the television. I strutted over to him and kissed him.
“Honey,” he said, “you’re in the way.”
The television, being nearly six feet wide, made it a little hard not to be in the way. But I wasn’t going to let this get to me. No, no, no! I was going to seduce my husband.
Suddenly, I imagined myself a lioness, hidden in the shrubbery. This man was the hartebeest, standing at a distance, chewing grass, holding a remote, occupied with the migratory patterns of Hannity & Colmes. On my belly, I crawled over the terrain. Every movement had to be carefully measured. Carelessness would undoubtedly result in complete physical starvation.
The lioness had had nothing for over a week. She pounced!
“I’m tired, baby,” he said, zipping up his pants.
I rose, slowly, and went straight to the kitchen. Now, I'm not an emotional eater. I wasn't hungry, really, but I went into the kitchen anyway and began to make myself a sandwich.
Never before had I paid so much attention to everything. The toasting of the bread, the preparation of the condiments, the selection of things to place in it, the washing, cutting and arrangement of these things, the tasting, the assessment, the renewed process to incorporate what was missing. The single bite. Yes, that is perfect.
What I really wanted to do, it occurred to me at the moment, was make sushi. I didn't have the ingredients at the moment. But I soon would.
That's how I got into cooking.
"I have a theory," I told my friend Thomas, 42, a journalist in Manhattan and also a foodie. "I think foodie culture is a direct result of sexual dissatisfaction."
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"That makes perfect sense," he said. Hiding out upstate to decompress, Thomas was grilling himself foie gras d'oie. Across the country, I was coaxing a béarnaise into being.
"I can't stop watching the cooking shows," I said. "It's a huge industry—all of it. Chefs are the new porn stars. We spend hours perusing produce. Everything is carefully inspected, selected, purchased, put away, then taken out, washed, cut up, mixed, put to the flame... Sex to a lot of us has lost its focus on the details. It's lost its sensuality. The kitchen brings that careful attention to the senses right back. It resurrects eroticism."
Thomas and I had a hot night once when we were both stranded in some small island in the middle of nowhere, high on the rush of the story. I'd wanted it hard and rough and he'd run out of vodka before he could access his sadism. So what had we done? We'd cooked.
"I don’t want to be here the day food replaces sex.” says John De Lucie, the head chef at Graydon Carter’s Waverly Inn.
But is it too late?
Following my divorce, I was dating a man whose schedule was exactly like mine. One night, we decided to take a break and really spend time together. I put on garters, stockings, shoes and a coat—and not much else. When I arrived at his house, he lamented the state of his refrigerator, so we made a dash to the grocery.
We spent so much time deliberating over different items at the store, then preparing them when we got back to his place (me in nothing but stockings and stilettos), that by the time we had finished eating, we only had enough energy to watch fifteen minutes of a film before we passed out from exhaustion.
"I worry that the lust that drove earlier generations from disco to bed seems too focused now on food,
