By: Dr. Diana Kirschner
I want to zero in on how one simple step can change your dating and love life big time, no matter what your age or dress size. You may be packing a few extra pounds or even more weight. You may be feeling a bit (or very) wrinkled, worn and old. You may look in the mirror and make nasty remarks to yourself about your saggy neck or jaw line. But it truly does not matter! Repeat: It does not matter. You can take a simple step, empower yourself in a fresh new way and create an awesome romance.
Let’s talk about ‘Beth,” a 56-year old in our Love Mentoring program (our specialized dating coaching). She is about 40 lbs overweight. Although she has not lost any weight and her age certainly has not changed, she took the simple step I am about to share with you and her whole life changed.
When Beth started Love Mentoring she was not dating at all. Now almost every man she meets asks her out, she’s so appealing. And in the last few months, a great guy has asked her for an exclusive relationship. Beth is someone who had trouble getting even one date. Now she’s dating and having the time of her life!
(OK. I hear you thinking about this…. If you want a powerful Love Mentor to help you, click here and get your own free 40 minute Love Mentoring session by phone or Skype. Just say Cynthia Sent Me for VIP treatment!) Now here’s Beth’s story:
When Beth started Love Mentoring, she would say things like, “I’ve lost my looks”, “Men only want young, thin women”, “My face is a wrinkly saggy mess.” In other words, she was very focused on what was wrong or unattractive about her. This kind of negative self talk is what tends to shackle you, hold you back from getting out there, meeting attractive men and fulfilling your dreams of companionship and passionate love.
The awesome simple step Beth made was to turn her negative self talk into positive talk about herself. This 180 turn is what completely transformed her love life. Beth’s Love Mentor, explained to her that her negative self-doubting thoughts came from a negative identity–which had to do with being old, fat, and so on. So Beth needed to create an identity that was beautiful, fantastic and very alluring to men. We call this the Diamond Self Identity. And anyone can do it!
Beth used a Diamond Self process that can help you turn your negative thoughts about yourself into positive one. It involves two steps:
Ask your best friends, especially male friends, to tell you what is most wonderful about you–why they love you, why they love to be around you. What is beautiful and attractive about you. Write down their answers.
Ask them to help you create a new Diamond Self nickname based on what they perceive about you.
For example, Beth’s Love Mentor said that she had a very warm, charismatic personality. Beth’s best male friend told her that she was very curvy and reminded him of Queen Latifah. Beth came up with a nickname that was Queen Luscious Elizabeth(QLE for short)!!! You can see the difference in Beth when she plays around with that nickname for herself. QLE has a great energy and flirtatiousness to her! Take a few moments and call a friend or two and ask them what is really attractive about you. Then ask them to help you jot down nicknames you might give yourself. Don’t be shy! Think Aphrodite, Beloved Isis, Luscious Liz, Amazing Grace. Just free associate to the wonderful things your friends say about you.
If you do feel shy or stuck in using this process or find that it is too hard for you to do on your own, you can arrange a free 40 minute consult by phone or Skype with one of my awesome Love Mentors– just to help you get going with your positive self talk and Diamond Self nickname. These sessions are not only fun, and empowering, they can be true game changers. We even had one woman who was able to get engaged right after her free intro session–because she identified and got over her negative self-sabotaging thoughts in regard to her relationship with her boyfriend! Just click here to set up your free consult with a Love Mentor. Make sure to say Cynthia Sent Me for VIP treatment!
Beth used her positive shift to give herself a makeover so that she looks and feels younger and, of course, feels so much better about herself. And, of course, she used Cynthia’s Facial Magic faithfully to rejuvenate her face. Now when Beth looks in the mirror, she is pleasantly surprised by how good she looks. Now that she has accessed her Diamond Self, she uses every opportunity to meet men. One day, she was walking into a bookstore and this man was walking in at the same time. Seeing that he was alone, she brightly said, “Hi, how are you today?!” The surprised man warmly smiled back and said, “Better right now!” He quickly asked if they could sit together at the cafe. They had a great time together, laughing and sharing about their favorite books and movies. They have now been dating for three months, and he’s very taken with her too.
This can happen for you. Yes, you. You can instantly boost and build your self confidence and build self esteem. And find a real love match that is just right for you. So please begin working on this simple step for yourself. Call your friends, jot down some nicknames. And if you want a powerful Love Mentor ally to help you,click here and get your free 40 minute Love Mentoring session. Remember to sayCynthia Sent Me for VIP treatment!
Wishing you love,
Dr. Diana, The Love Mentor
Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a psychologist whose revolutionary work is the basis of a PBS TV Special for women over 45 on love. She is the author of the best-sellingdating advice book, Love in 90 Days, and the highly acclaimed relationship advice book,Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love. Visit Dr. Diana atwww.lovein90days.com