Purity Balls. What the hell?

In general, girls scare me with their Barbie dolls and princess parties. I don’t know how to braid hair or talk softly. As a teacher, I taught so many female students who exhibited low self-esteem and emotional issues. I once considered adopting a girl, but fears I’d get a shy little thing begging for ballet ultimately stopped me.Because then I’d have to give her to my mother.Here’s a daughter dilemma I’m glad to have never addressed: Purity Balls....more

How Abstinence Helped My Self-Love Journey

I never thought much about abstinence. I mean, growing up with Nigerian parents, I was told to wait till marriage. There was no conversation about sex in general; I was just told not to do it....more
MommyKerrie That is an amazing story! Thanks so much MommyKerrie for sharing, I appreciate it.more

Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

I am 9.5 months into a year-long self-imposed abstinence from both sex and dating. Usually when people hear this they laugh and ask me if I am joking. When I tell them that I am not, they usually want to know why.I am not a born-again Christian "reclaiming my virginity" and I am not doing this for religious reasons though I will admit a lot of my spirituality has resurfaced primiarly due to the fact that I am not spending the majority of my time pursuing women....more

Why Abstinence Makes You More Attractive Than Beyonce

                                    Ladies, we have been lied to, deceived - bamboozled even. We have been misinformed about what the true beauty of a woman is since we were little girls....more

Honey, You're So Hot, God Must Have Used You As His Blueprint When He Made Man

These are the words I hope to say to my hubz everyday when we wake up. Yes, this long and hopefully interesting post is about what I've always feared putting into words for the sheer ridiculousness of it. (Hey, I just found out ridiculousness is a word) And the fear that if/when I ever do get married and the guy reads this blog he'll be like, "uko serious?...more

Gaming for Abstinence or How To Be A Smarter News Viewer

It takes some effort not to get caught up in the emotional aspects of news stories, especially if the topic is important to you. You should know that certain media outlets will do anything and everything to get your attention. It isn’t about truth or informing viewers. It is about gathering viewers for advertising dollars. ...more

Thanks for these valuable tips, Gena. In addition to the holes you've cited in the reporting of ...more

Congressman Souder's AFFAIR with PART TIME worker

OOk, by now you know that the 'family values', 'abstinence only', 'marriage is between a man and a woman' Republican Congressman Mark Souder from Indiana is resigning for having an affair with a staffer, but did you know she was 'PART TIME'?...more

Young Women Need to Be Selective not Selected

As you know, if you’ve read my very first post, that I share joint custody of my two girls with my ex.  Just recently, the jerk that is my ex husband decided to quit working so that his parenting time wouldn’t be reduced to only weekends.  This resulted in the judge ’awarding’ us 50/50 parenting time.  So now, I have the girls from Saturday to Wednesday (4 nights) and he has Wednesday to Saturday (3 nights).  ...more

Great post and good reminders, although I disagree about not marrying in your 20s... I ...more

Sexual Education - Can Sex Ed Save Us From Ourselves?

It is the last week of National Masturbation Month.  I remember when Masturbation for Peace first came to my attention.  Ah, good times for a good cause. Anyway, I have been thinking about sex and sexuality. Particularly this day in California with a ruling on Proposition 8. My fear is that our collective ignorance and intolerance about sexuality is literally killing our children and will continue to do so. It is not doing the grown folks much good either. ...more

I envy your daughter's delight in discovering new parts and things to show. I know why we had to ...more

Christian Teens and SEX ... Before Marriage.

Christians and SEX are not usually in the same sentence, unless of course they are married! But what about Christians who are not married? I am specifically referring to teenage or young adult Christians who are still living the single life. Christians have very DEFINITE opinions about sex or the lack there of!I was involved in a conversation the other day and this came up, so I figured I would bring it to the blogosphere and let you guys have a crack at it! ...more