5 Warnings Signs of an Abusive Relationship

In the first post for our month long series on Healthy Relationships, I want to share 5 signs of an abusive relationship. These are by no means all-inclusive. If your "gut check" tells you something doesn't feel right, trust it.*Note: I will be using pronouns that imply that the male is the abuser and the female is the victim, however we know that this in not always the case. The same rules apply when the genders are reversed and also in same-sex relationships....more

How Healthy Lifestyle Behaviors Saved Me from Domestic Abuse

My life has been filled with personal triumphs due to my embracing healthy habits at an early age. With an upbringing in the Englewood community on Chicago’s South Side, like many African-American women and girls, I struggled with obesity, leading a lifestyle of physical inactivity and poor nutrition. ...more

The Sociopath and Control: It's there from the Beginning

You can read my entire story at: www.imarriedasociopath.blogspot.com  [It is painfully similar to so many I'm hearing about. It's almost like they have a text book on how to destroy another human being!] I should have seen it....more

Controlling Love breeds discontent and disconnection

One of the best things about being in love is that you discover much about yourself and about the person you ‘love’.  Perhaps I am speaking from a perfect world perspective, but I believe that if you are in love with someone, you have to let all of your defenses down and don’t have fear of being vulnerable.  You have to clearly understand that if you are giving of yourself that you have to take your emotions off the shelf and play by the rules of the Universe.  For most this is a scary proposition, and for so many more who find themselves in relations with people who hav...more


One day I was sweeping the kitchen floor, my soul was crying, my body and mind was exhausted, I had permanent dark circles under my eyes. When all of a sudden, the serentiy prayer came into my mind. "GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE, THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN, AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE!" Just then, I stopped sweeping and really focused on the words in this prayer........more

Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hit, controlled and manuipulated (by husband and in-laws)

Dear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for some advice... I hope you can help....more

When They Show You Who They Are, Believe Them

Many people in my life are grappling with the same major problem. From my friend who was mortified to discover that another "friend" (one with a history of stealing) went behind her back and attempted to take a job from her, to a man who is devastated to discover that his girlfriend is cheating on him again, to the friend who married a positively charming gentleman mistakenly believing that the hostile rampages he directed at his mother and former girlfriends could never be aimed at her; selective blindness is rampant. ...more
 @ggbabi45 I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience, but thank goodness you took a piece of ...more

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm on the verge of total breakdown

Dear Dr. Romance:I need desperate help...i'm on the verge of total breakdown...i need immediate help so i searched the Internet and saw your email add.. here is my problem..please help please..please...more