Book Review: Preparing For Adolescence by Dr. James Dobson

Our church gave my nearly 11-year-old stepdaughter a copy of Dr. James Dobson’sPreparing For Adolescence at a youth group welcome dinner. I have read several other books by Dr. Dobson and I typically find his advice to be sound, but due to the delicate nature of this topic Matt and I thought it might be wise to preview the book and make sure Amarissa was ready for it....more

Adolescence ends when you finally admit you still need your parents

Psychologists say that increased fighting between adolescents and parents is part of a natural process of a child breaking away and becoming independent. But has anyone else had an adolescence that extended 25 years? ...more

Things I would have known if I'd had a brother

Growing up, I always hated being the youngest. I was very put upon and woebegone and no one understood me. My mother had been the oldest. My dad had been an only child. So I was forced to live the life of a young Mississippi girl who NO ONE UNDERSTOOD (as if anyone could have understood me otherwise).Above anything else, I always used to want a brother. A big brother. Sometimes I would pretend Stephanie was my big brother because she was so tall, but then she’d do something stupid like be a cheerleader or wear a bra and the illusion was shattered....more

From God to Village Idiot

Just because the transition happens swiftly doesn’t make it any less painful.One day you’re walking home from the train knowing that as soon as you round the corner onto your street, your boys will come barreling down the sidewalk and fling their arms around you. The next, they’re too engrossed with Face-stagram-ify to acknowledge that you’ve walked in the door.One day, you are wise. The next, you are wizened....more
 @Just Linda  When I first met TW's son, he believed NOTHING I said but Mrs. Futch was the ...more

How did I get here?

The other day, I was doing my typical 45-minute commute home when a Nirvana song came on the radio. All of a sudden, I was whisked back to my high school days, and before I knew it, I was almost at my daughter's daycare. I stopped at a red light and suddenly a wave of panic came over me. “How did I get here?”, I thought. But here’s the thing: I wasn’t bothered by the fact that I had mindlessly driven through traffic for the better part of an hour. The thing that scared me was something so much more frightening that it actually took my breath away....more

Your Teenager's Brain: Understanding the alien years

Your Teenager’s Brain10 Scientific explanations for adolescent impulsivity, moodiness and general alien-like behavior ...more

The Bodacious Maturation of Wonder Riley--3

It is my heart’s desire to be a writer when I grow up. There. I said it. And I plan to, need to, verbalize that fact a lot more. In order to get the concept, my very destiny, deep down inside my bone marrow. Toward this I’m-a-writer-at-the-cellular-level-end, I have ordered business cards. They feature a fuschia feather pen and pot of ink illustration. Fuschia happens to be my favorite color. My beauty mentor and next door neighbor, Francoise Suzette Orleans, assures me that pink clashes with my hair, but I’m okay with that....more

God's Cruel Joke: Adolescence & Peri-Menopause, Part 1

When my mother had children she was 22 years old. That means when I was 13 and nasty, she was 35. She was still young enough to deal with the chaos of adolescence. Sure, we celebrated her 35th birthday two years in a row because she lost track, but she probably wasn't perimenopausal.These days, lots of women delay having children. We must stop doing that!Because when our children come into adolescence, we are struggling through perimenopause and our homes become bomb sites....more

This journey

Being on holiday this week I relished in my nothing to do-ness and set out yesterday morning with no goal other than to be outside. First thing, I grabbed a book and headed to a café for my coffee, a treat I don’t often indulge in. Lately, Collin and I have been adventuring closer to home with rental bikes.  (3 Euros a day including lights, locks, baskets, and helmets!) The trail system is unbelievable.  On our adventures we stumbled across other trail systems, trails leading into the hills!...more

A Heart Outside Your Body

What no one tells you when you are pregnant:Yes, having children means you get to re-live the world through young eyes--Christmas morning, having turned into a cynical gift-grab somewhere in late adolescence, is magical again, the first taste of ice cream is transcendent, a birthday (not your own!) is an occasion for spinning with joy, the skirt of your new dress flaring out around you....more