How Having A Baby Changed My TV Viewing Habits

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Don't Tell Mommy

Between the years of 1956 and 1967 my mother wrote letters to the Harry Holt Adoption Agency. She wrote of the mistakes she had made in her past, of how desperately she wanted children, and after getting them, she wrote about the antics of a growing family....more

Teaching Your Adopted Child About Nature & Nurture

Dear friends in adoption,Here are some creative ways that I've found to help your children integrate their dual-identity--birth and adoptive, nature and nurture....more

Reminder in the Mail

There goes the dream of having another child. The pain of a second failed adoption has taken 2 years to heal from. I need to write it, purge it, and pray about it, one final time. I haven’t written about this awful loss in our lives for years because it’s raw. And no matter how much I pretend to say I’m over it, the pain is still near the surface when the reminders rear their ugly head....more

Saying the Words Out Loud

How many of us have lost a significant family member and never been the same since?It’s easy to wonder if we’re the only one who has those persistent feelings of loneliness and irreplaceable loss. Last week I received a call from an acquaintance who had just started to read my adoption memoir and was stunned by her own feelings. She had only read through chapter three, and she was taken aback by the detailed account of my mother’s sudden death and the brutal pain I felt from the loss of that incredibly close relationship....more

Simple Questions Don't Always Have Simple Answers

How many kids do you have?That seems like such a simple question, doesn't it?Surely everyone can give a simple answer to such a simple question.However, for those of us who have lost a child, it is not such an easy question to answer....more