Forms of Searching in Retrospect: my Runaway and Can of Worms Stories

When people think of search in adoption they normally think of searching to find a family member to reunite.  But searching, for adoptees, goes wider and deeper than that.  Perhaps in forms that one would not expect.  Some search by asking questions about themselves.  Some search by looking through books and doing genealogy.  Some search by actually seeking out family.  Melissa's (Yoon's Blur) recent guest blog "RUN...more

Watching My Daughter with The Mother I Didn't Grow Up With

Last weekend I watched my 9-year-old daughter Francesca swim in the Hudson River with my mother. This would not have been a remarkable event if I had ever gone swimming with my mother as a child. Or listened to her read bedtime stories or felt her lips on my cheek or watched her eyes widen in delight as I presented her with a hand-made Mother's Day card. I didn't do any of these things with my mother because I didn't meet her until I was a junior in college....more

November is National Adoption Awareness month...

......better known as "How many times can this month make me puke month?" I hate November because it's "National Adoption Awareness Month". Yeah, umm, I'm painfully aware that I'm adopted. Every time I look in the mirror, every time I am with EITHER of my families, and every time I look at my birth certificate. I don't need a month to be aware. ...more

Poor Reviews For Addie’s Story

As most of you have noticed, I don’t write about my personal experience with adoption much here.  There is a reason for that.  I don’t know what my personal experience with adoption really is. ...more