If we're not careful, our parenting can be based on certain expectations and impressions. Sometimes we think of our child in one way - “athlete” or “drummer” - and just miss the other ways they might choose to be....more
I'm a "mean" mom and I have the award to prove it. When my oldest son was a senior in high school he made a plaque in woods class. He called it the "Mean Mom Award". It was over 6 feet tall, beautifully crafted and earned him an A+ grade. He presented it to me at his Senior Banquet in front of his entire graduating class, parents, teachers, and school administration. ...more
Now with three adult children I am still finding that I continue to learn my job as a parent is not finished and I still have things to learn. How I interact with my adult children and what I both expect and tolerate from them continues to evolve -- and in some cases needs to evolve.
I also have found in my wise older age that sometimes as I try to help my adult children it results in holding them back. I have a 21- and 23-year-old that seem to be in a holding pattern because we keep helping them out when they lose their jobs and have no place to stay. Then they don't look for new jobs very aggressively and they allow the rest of us to pay their bills, etc....more
The youngest daughter is nine, and a year and a half ago, she decided to abandon the world of dance for the soccer field. My reaction was mixed. I loathed the world of dance moms, but as a recovering Catholic schoolgirl, completive sports probably aren’t the best alternative.I played sports the way most women of my generation did - with cutthroat abandon. Not for us was the idea of that sports was all about the "fun" and the "team spirit". We played to win. Second was, and continues to be, the first loser for me....more
By the start of the Autumn almost (or so it seemed!) all the children in my daughter’s class had their own Nintendo DS game. I had managed to get through the term without buying one, but by the time the holidays started, she was asking for one. At the same time, at school, she was really struggling with Maths and was really starting to lose her confidence....more
Lisa FrederiksenThe following is a reprint of my post on the Decoder (a parent-to-parent blog that tackles the real, everyday issues we face in raising healthy teens) of The Parternership at DrugFree.org... ...more