A Nice Surprise

If we're not careful, our parenting can be based on certain expectations and impressions. Sometimes we think of our child in one way - “athlete” or “drummer” - and just miss the other ways they might choose to be....more

Mean Mom Award

I'm a "mean" mom and I have the award to prove it.  When my oldest son was a senior in high school he made a plaque in woods class.  He called it the "Mean Mom Award".  It was over 6 feet tall, beautifully crafted and earned him an A+ grade.  He presented it to me at his Senior Banquet in front of his entire graduating class, parents, teachers, and school administration. ...more
@victorias_view Believe me...there were moments even I thought I was walking a fine line between ...more

Failure to Launch: Why Won't My Adult Children Leave the Nest?

Now with three adult children I am still finding that I continue to learn my job as a parent is not finished and I still have things to learn. How I interact with my adult children and what I both expect and tolerate from them continues to evolve -- and in some cases needs to evolve. I also have found in my wise older age that sometimes as I try to help my adult children it results in holding them back. I have a 21- and 23-year-old that seem to be in a holding pattern because we keep helping them out when they lose their jobs and have no place to stay. Then they don't look for new jobs very aggressively and they allow the rest of us to pay their bills, etc....more
Wow, all I can say is you are not alone.  I have an 18 and 21 year old, both going to school and ...more

Pay Attention

A Life Full of Days......more

Are You A First Time Mom? The Phrase That's Both A Compliment And An Insult

 This was our Harvest Festival @ Church. This is Matilda loosing it. ...more

Shares How to Teach Kids Responsibility: The Five Essential E’s! Part 2 of 5

This blog is the second in a five-part series about raising responsible children....more

Is It Okay to Tell Your Child She Didn't Do a Good Job?

The youngest daughter is nine, and a year and a half ago, she decided to abandon the world of dance for the soccer field. My reaction was mixed. I loathed the world of dance moms, but as a recovering Catholic schoolgirl, completive sports probably aren’t the best alternative.I played sports the way most women of my generation did - with cutthroat abandon. Not for us was the idea of that sports was all about the "fun" and the "team spirit". We played to win. Second was, and continues to be, the first loser for me....more
@BlogHerMoms There are better ways to talk to your kids, or anyone for that matter. Also, the ...more

Are you Thinking of Buying a Video Game for Your Kids this Christmas?

By the start of the Autumn almost (or so it seemed!) all the children in my daughter’s class had their own Nintendo DS game.  I had managed to get through the term without buying one, but by the time the holidays started, she was asking for one.  At the same time, at school, she was really struggling with Maths and was really starting to lose her confidence....more

Sometimes Children Learn Best When the Going Gets Tough

Lisa FrederiksenThe following is a reprint of my post on the Decoder (a parent-to-parent blog that tackles the real, everyday issues we face in raising healthy teens) of The Parternership at DrugFree.org... ...more
@Break_Cycles Our pleasure - great content deserves it!more

Selective Memory

Memory is a child walking along a seashore.  You never can tell what small pebble it will pick up and store away among its treasured things.  ~Pierce Harris...more