My close friend Shelley -- a 38-year-old divorced mom and full-time student -- was sitting alone in a Calgary cafe when conversation struck up between her and an attractive man at the next table. She judged him to be around 50, he was well-dressed, well-spoken, and had a confident, warm air about him....more
Who wants someone reading their thoughts, probing through their memories, broadcasting their private lives & putting it on display? Sounds like a poor theme for a science fiction movie. But someone thought it up and made it possible. I remember reading a story a few years ago about them testing this out at a college. Volunteers would be hooked up to this thought reading machine to test it out. Somewhere along the way, perhaps before, they made it happen wirelessly...to fit the WiFi world we live in now.
Fixing your marriage after an affair is hard. No matter how dedicated both spouses are, there is going to be a lot of frustration, sadness, confusion and a whole array of mixed emotions to work through.It's not easy.It's been one of the hardest things I've ever went through. Even harder than being a single parent at 15 and trying to graduate High School. (But that's a story for a different post on a different day.)...more
My husband and I have always had a dual-income household. We are fortunate to both have jobs that we truly enjoy. There have been a few times in the past where one of us was out of work and financially dependent on the other person, which naturally lead to stress in our relationship. But we got through it (for better or worse, right?) and moved ahead. At no point during those times did one of us consider cheating on the other....more
Life After an Affair: Strategies for Saving a MarriagePart III There are probably few things in life that pack a punch as devastating as the shock of finding out that your spouse has been cheating on you. Who, what, where, when, and how are the burning questions the scorned ask and ask and, then, ask again… seemingly without end....more
The more I have grown to love blogging, the more I have noticed so many changes in my lifestyle, and I think this blogging thing has many similarities to having an affair. Below are just a few examples of signs valid enough for anybody (a. k. a. the husband) to doubt your fidelity.
It’s hard to describe what it feels like to discover your husband has been cheating on you. Luckily, I’m not often asked about it, because people are usually too afraid to ask. They convince themselves that it’s none of their business, that I probably don’t want to talk about it, or that it would just make an otherwise lovely afternoon uncomfortable. The truth is that I want to say all of this out loud because it really happened....more
It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart: After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair....more