Born Strong

Ladies, while growing up and expected to be "the weaker sex" , at what point did you feel strong and what made you feel that way?  I'm paraphrasing but, that was the question that author, college professor and fellow blogger Rebecca Hains asked her readers recently on her Facebook page.  After giving it some thought I discovered that this is a harder question to answer than I thought it should be, but I couldn't figure out why.  Why couldn't I think of when I felt that it was okay to be strong or that moment that made me feel strong? ...more
Barbarahughes  I think most of us grow into our strength later in our lives particularly after ...more

I Won't Sleep Outside For a Phone, But I Will Stand In Line To Vote

With less than a month until the election and only a few days until the voter registration deadline, convincing people to vote is every candidate's goal. ...more
Amen.  I have very little patience for women who do not exercise their right to vote.  It's so ...more

Night Time is the Wrong Time

Check out for more!Happy Friday y’all! First, can I just say when I was looking for a picture of “lonely Black woman” it kept giving me photos of Black women at church?!!? That made me laugh and cry all at the same time....more

Is There More to Maureen Peal?

I have always loved Toni Morrison's classic novel The Bluest Eye.  It provides a brilliant glimpse into the world of Black American womanhood in the early 1940s, showing how race and class intersect.  My only regret is that this great work has never come to life on the big screen, unlike Alice Walker's The Color Purple.  Like many people familiar with The Bluest Eye, I empathize with its protagonist, young Pecola Breedlove.  Her story is ultimately one of tragedy and the...more
Morrison has said on several occasions that she feels she did not do Maureen Peal justice. She ...more

Why "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" Isn't Bad For Black Women

Last season when I found myself watching Bravo's "The Real Housewives of Atlanta," I was astounded, appalled and I must say shamefully---entertained.  That's right, I kept watching, fascinated, as the image of rich, black women as gold diggers was paraded across my television screen, week after week, and I added it to my list of TV shows that gave black women a bad name. I've since changed my mind. ...more

You know, because sexism is wrong but ageism isn't. 


Yes, that was ...more

All Natural Battle Royal: The Fight For The Right To My Own Hair!

My hair looks crazy, and I look jacked. It’s been this way for about 2 months now. I’m a broke, possibly unemployed (a whole different story) newly-wed in a new town. This town, while I like it, doesn’t exactly cater to my culture. I think I saw 2 home perm kits in the local beauty supply... Anyway, for about 2 months my hair has been unkempt. Most of the black woman reading this will probably gasp. 2 months?!? ...more

Don't fight it honey, you just have to learn it... it takes time... come join me and my ...more

Supreme Court Overturns DC Gun Ban - This is Appalling

Supreme Court Overturns DC Gun Ban - This is Appalling Those of you who live in the Washington, DC metropolitan area know the increase of gun violence this past year. Majority of those of African Americans. Specifically, this past month DC has seen a number of shootings and homicides, including ten earlier this month alone. This outrageous ruling by the Supreme Court may have increase that number. The 5 to 4 ruling opinion asserts that individuals had the right to own guns for self-defense and for hunting. ...more

Running Away from Mothering

I never imagined myself with children. I was never one of those girls to which the younger children flocked. Yet, I never escape being pegged as a mother. Yes, I have children, but we all know of women who've borne children and have not a mothering bone in their bodies. And we know women who've never had biological children but nurture neighborhoods and perhaps nations. When I say I'm pegged as a mother, I mean I seem to be that person to whom other people come for answers to their problems, the one to whom they'll tell their troubles, or the person in front of whom they decide to break down. ...more

but one that we don't always talk about (unless we're blogging about it maybe) because we ...more