The Light at the end of a long, dark tunnel

When you're about to get married you feel all sorts of things: Happiness. . Butterflies. . Fear. . Excitement. . Anxiety. . but more than anything LOVE. Now, that I am officially divorced - don't get all shocked, it's a WONDERFUL thing - I went back and read the last post I wrote before getting married 11 months ago, and I noticed something SO profound, I wish I would've caught it then. - I never said I felt loved. . or was in love. . Which is good. ....more

Love And Loss And All That Lies Between

I had a bad moment last week.  They don't happen as often anymore, now that he's been gone awhile. It's been over two years since he last walked out the door, climbed up into his fully-packed pickup truck with the kids (who were going for their first Daddy overnight) and backed out of the driveway. I stood in the doorway, waving hard with a big smile on my face for the kids. See kids! It's OK! It's all going to be OK! But it wasn't OK....more
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Hope after Divorce

Hope is around us and within us.  Always stirring and sometimes ignored.  Sometimes, when I get to the other side of an obstacle once thought insurmountable, I look back to discover what brought me to the other side.  It’s always the same thing—hope. ...more
 @Barbarahughes Thank you so much.  I am grateful for you!more

The Real Problem with Divorce

Last weekend there was a New York Times Modern Love essay in which a woman describes the impact of her decision to divorce, and her parents' multiple divorces, on her...more

FREE Moving Beyond Divorce Telesummit - Beginning June 19

 Moving Beyond Divorce Telesummit - I am interviewing 14 divorce experts who specialize in different aspects.  This is FREE.For additional informaiton and to register, please click here.Debbi...more

My Red Dress Moment

The Traveling Red Dress… A Story… Within a Story… With in a Story I can’t read this post without tearing up a little each time… Watched the TRD community page for weeks on Facebook… peeked at others Red dress moments… shopped for dresses online… as if I would ever really purchase one… Shared the story with every female friend of...more

Scenes From an Italian Restaurant

     Online dating. Okay.  I had to.   It was time. I knew even when I was in the midst of divorce that I did not want to live the rest of my life alone, and I included my sister and I living in side by side condos on some old person beach as alone.  Where to find a possible life partner, a soul mate, a fucking date?  The only single man I knew was Frankie the handyman, and he wore his t shirts like Brittany Spears in the 90's and smelled horrendous....more
You are such a great writer!  I hope you plan on turning this into a book!  I can't wait to read ...more

Was the Right Decision For Me to Divorce Him?

Simply put, there will be days where divorced life sucks! You may feel overwhelmed with all the additional responsibilities that used to be split between you and your Ex.  You may be feeling lonely, even sad, at times.  You also may be feeling strapped for cash....more

loving someone in divorce

I am almost 2 years into a relationship that is the best thing that has ever happened to me on a very character personal level, feeling so comfortable with him that I feel a relaxed state of being that I have never known (not even with my family) and having a home and work with him that we work wonderfully. There are challenges but we have worked through most challenges. ...more
News update. Sex. condom breaks. Few days away from period. Took Plan B. Now waiting to see if ...more