I Would Rather Grow Old Alone Than Settle for Less

"You must learn to love yourself before you can truly love another."We've all heard these words of wisdom, but that never made any sense to me.  Love myself? Sure, I'm great. I dig me. So why did I suck at dating? What was it I wasn't getting? I was never a big dater when I was drinking.  I was terrified of having my heart broken again like it had been in 2005 from a boyfriend who didn’t turn out to be what he advertised.  And as my disease manifested itself, I lost all interest in men.  ...more

From the Trenches of Alcoholism

Alcoholism sucks. I know I'm not speaking from direct experience, but as one with a ring side seat, let me assure you that is absolutely awful. I can tell now. I know what to look for. And that fact alone has been hard won. It's come from emergency gallbladder surgery two years ago....more

What Will Others Think?

From UnPickled Blog:I recently changed my hair colour from (monthly-salon-visit) blonde to (do-it-myself) red. The change was mostly motivated by convenience, and perhaps Julianne Moore played a role, too. When I had an actual hair colour of my own it was strawberry blonde, so neither one feels to foreign to me....more

10 Reasons It Didn't Suck To Be Sober In Italy

 From UnPickledBlog.com...more
Ashley - L'Esperta Thanks, Ashley. I became quite obsessed with cinnamon gelato in particular ...more

Perfect Hair

I went to bed at 9:00 p.m. that night. Exhausted after a long week on the road. At 10:30 p.m. my phone rang and I ignored it. At 10:32 p.m. my phone rang again and I turned it off. At 11:00 p.m. I awoke to my husband gently shaking me and telling me I needed to get up. He’d been in another town visiting friends when he got the call. He made the two hour trip home to be sure that he was the one who broke the news. My mother had been institutionalized after an attempted suicide and would be held in the facility until someone came to claim her....more

The Lame Blame Shame Game

I posted this Wednesday (below in italics along with image of butterflies) this week on my Facebook page. I am trying to be braver and more honest by allowing my true voice to emerge.  It has emerged -- always been there -- I just have not allowed myself to share the voice openly.  I like to write live so social media and blogging really works for me....more

The Sobriety Resolution: 7 Realizations in 1 Year

In November of 2013 I read a story by David Sedaris that made me think about my own drinking.  In the story his sister continuously brought home men that had the similar whisky and cigarette smell of their father....more

Whew! Looking Back on a Month of Daily Posts

 After 30 posts in 30 days, I am please to say I have successfully completed NaBloPoMo 2014.My goals were to develop a more structured writing discipline and grow my blog. Check and check....more

A Little Wisdom

Sometimes I surprise myself with the wisdom that's rattling around in my brain. I take no credit for creating it; I've simply filtered and retained good material over time. I do have a knack for discernment and storage, I suppose. And clearly I can regurgitate well, as evidenced by the volume of good posts I'm pleased to have produced this month through the daily blogging challenge known as NaBloPoMo....more

The Drama Triangle

 Recovery from addiction requires more than simply giving up “X”. The most significant changes come from learning why we ever needed “X” in the first place and then rethinking how we operate. This almost always involves addressing interpersonal relationships. For me, one tool that has been extremely useful in changing my approach is the Karpman Drama Triangle....more