The Wedding Curse

We were married 17 years ago today.  But we're not celebrating.The problem isn’t the state of the union—but the date of the union. Flashback to 1994.  It’s my second marriage—a small wedding on short notice—and it involves complicated logistics— work, two sets of kids, and me relocating from Los Angeles to Carmel.  To settle my kids before starting a new school, we settle on July 17—telling family and a few friends who make plans to come....more

The Anniversary

Earlier this year, my husband’s parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. This is a very important milestone for any couple. It was an especially important event for my husband. I felt that he really needed to celebrate and honor his parents…more than they did. I think that having his parents renew their vows would restore his faith in marriage and hope for us to strengthen ours. As I witnessed them renewing their vows, I took stock of this couple before me. This couple, who enveloped me in their love by accepting me into their family as their daughter-in-law....more

Celebrating our 5th on Hou Hai Lake, Beijing

People say that it’s good luck to give wood for the fifth anniversary. I’m not sure why, but I think it’s probably got something to do with the adding of experiential rings; growing together, evolving. The roots that flourish bring life to more and more buds, each new year that you are together....more

Blogiversary #2

Yesterday marked the 2 year anniversary of when I started this blog.  I started it because I was having difficulty coping, in every possible way.  I asked for advice but it wasn't enough.  I read some books, but it wasn't enough.  I looked online.  And I became afraid.  So, I decided to add my voice to the fray.  I didn't know who, if anyone, was ever going to see it.  But I would tell my story.  I would relate my experiences.  I would try to educate others. ...more

Summer Memories

Keeping Her Cool is having a blog hop with a great twist: favorite summer memories.And it fits right in with what I've been thinking about lately, which is that this month marks five years since I met my husband.  Now, that doesn't sound like much, but we've really been through a lot (not even counting the twins, if that says anything), and I can honestly say he's the best thing to ever come my way.  Ever. I'm incredibly lucky and incredibly in love.Would you like a pictur...more


Seventeen years ago, 2 very young people made solemn vows to each other in the presence of great friends, family, and loving supporters.  Last night Brian and I watched our wedding video.  Tonight, we will steal away for a few hours to have dinner, reflect upon the last 17 years, and dream about the years to come.   Life lesson:  Milestones are important   Why do we celebrate anniversaries, birthdays, and even mark a day of remembrance we call Memorial Day?  It is so important to set aside time for pointed reflec...more

A great adventure!

Our family is preparing for a much anticipated trip to Disneyworld....more

That man of mine.

I really wondered if I would come back here and blog, or if it would be a one time thing, and then Friday happened. My husband,Ken,surprised me. In a big way. See, our anniversary is coming up on May 18. We will have been married for 20yrs. I know you are saying,"Wow, she looks so young, how can she have been married for 20yrs!" Well, in my mind you are saying that. Anyway, Friday started out as a regular day. Take kids to school, drink some coffee, shower. Then Ken told me to get ready, pack a bag for overnight and we were leaving. We don't ever go anywhere overnight....more

Our Anniversary: The Details (Finally!)

Here's how we spent our anniversary. We actually kicked off the celebrating on Saturday night. We prepped for the big day by finally getting around to trying a new Italian pizzeria near our place called Ciao Napoli. It was delicious, and we'll for sure be heading back soon. We drank some good wine, ate some delicious pizza, and then we were stuffed....more

Wedding Cake Eating: The Sequel

So, technically our anniversary was on the 27th of March, but we just got around to eating the top of the wedding cake last night. It was surprisingly good. My brother, who house sat for us when we were on our honeymoon, wrapped it and he actually did a really good job. He wrapped it twice in saran wrap, and then twice in foil. Nicely done, big bro!...more