Prepare To Be Uncomfortable

Recently a client asked me how to tell the difference between the natural anxiety a person has when they’re moving forward into something new and the gut instinct that something is truly wrong for them.  Good question, right?And the answer is: I don’t think you can tell the difference.  At least not right away.Both of those feelings are so profoundly uncomfortable that it’s easy to see why some people stay stuck in the familiar.  As my wise friend Amy Ahlers once told me, “If you are out of your comfort zone, you can expect to feel uncomfortable.”...more


Yesterday was a great day. I drove Jack into the city to a children’s museum, and we played and climbed and…well, mostly I chased him. We devoured, in equal parts, a delicious sausage pizza. The wind bit our cheeks as we ran back to the parking garage. And I reveled in moving and playing and driving and inserting my little validated parking ticket in the slot—actions of which I am oddly proud. As I performed them, I was thinking, triumphantly: I’ll never let anxiety stop me from doing what I want to do....more

Rebranding Myself


Christmas Gift Fails

I’m crap at Christmas presents. Well, that’s not exactly true. I actually enjoy buying stuff for people. It satisfies my second-X-chromosome connected need to shop, neatly combining it with my equally second-X-chromosome-connected need to please other people. And I delight in finding gifts that match people, I really do. There’s a kind of creative satisfaction in it. Don’t ever get me started on the whole ‘just give them a gift card’ copout… which is only marginally better than the ‘ask them what they want’ scenario....more

The diary of an anxious young lady

I'm starting a new column named Diary of an anxious lady. I wanted to share some thoughts how anxiety feels and how to beat it if you can. I'm going to post frequently, where all of the events are real, and so are the characters. I changed their names and some circumstances. The main character in this diary is called Pelin, a girl with dark black hair, a perfectionist with an anxiety disorder. Her other half is Marcel, a boy with a lot on his mind, but carrying an endless love in his heart. ...more

Thanksgiving Eve

We spend an inordinate amount of time prepping for the holidays. Like today, its the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and spending time with family, friends or running a 10K. The anxiety put upon ourselves is pretty unbelievable because the next few days is suppose to be spent relaxing and chilling and volunteering....more

Dr. Dow: GABA-Boosting Foods Stop Anxiety And Cravings

It's 3 p.m., and just looking at your to-do list makes you anxious. You're stressed, and ready to reach for a temporary solution like a diet cola or candy bar. To the rescue: Health expert Dr. Mike Dow, author of "Diet Rehab: 28 Days to Finally Stop Craving the Foods That Make You Fat" (click for details on how to order)....more

Social anxiety and the literary mind

 I’m blinking too much. My breathing is shallow. This is ridiculous. Why am I so scared? I can deliver lectures, I can give advice, offer ideas, lead discussions…perform on a stage… but right now I’m scared. So scared that I can hear my own pulse. So scared that I can’t feel my fingertips. So scared that I feel myself falling. Just keep paddling... Just keep paddling… duck on the pond… Calm on the surface…paddle-paddling beneath… Remember to breathe… ...more

Expunging The Worries

Worrying is just a fact of life for me. It’s like my job, it’s what I do. Last week I even had a trip to the ER for the start of an ulcer thanks to all the worrying I do. I worry well and hard. I do my job well. I worry about everything. Will we have a home next month (even though realistically I know we will)? Will we have food? Will we have clothing for the winter? Will we be able to pay our bills (especially since I have no income) and keep the wolves at bay? Will Scott love me even when I have a few bad days in a row?...more