Family Violence Q&A

Q: My spouse and I often have arguments over the “small stuff.” How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering? ...more

Make Ups (365 Days of Blessings – Day 121)

I am thankful for make upsNo, not for make-up, but make ups.  That time when the world is all on its proper axis again, and everyone is happy, and you can hear birds chirping, and a soft breeze blowing……….You get the drift…..Warmest regards,  ...more

How to Get Out of Jail Free

So here’s the super-duper Get Out of Jail Free Card my therapist friend Scarlet gave me after I’d moaned and groaned my way through dinner, telling her how I completely lost my mind the other day. It's a super-neat trick that's already saved my ass on more than one occasion, and I hope it saves yours, too. (Unfortunately for Scarlet, I happened to be wired on this particular evening. Below is a partial transcript, so you can listen in.) ...more

I Laughed Until I Cried (or That's Why So Many People Get Divorced During a Remodel)

A few days ago, Ken and I spent three hours trying to find a replacement countertop for the one that Home Depot messed up, and man alive, I'm not quite sure how I survived. I was ready to pass out after the first place, and by the time we hit the second store, I nearly laid down on the floor and went to sleep, never to awake again. We had to stop for an emergency coffee before we attempted the third store, and wow, am I glad I held in there because the third was by far and away the highlight of our morning. ...more
I always feel like I am stepping into an episode of "The Office" when I visit Home Depot. Cause ...more

Fight-Free February or Madness-Free March | How to positively handle conflict with your children

In successful relationships it’s not that there is no conflict but conflicts are well-handled.  When there is conflict the following approach will help stop it escalating and allow for disagreement without harming the relationship....more

Where did all the friendship go?

I’ve recently come upon more than a few articles about ending friendships. Female friendships that is, that relationship between women of whatever age that is ideally supposed to last a lifetime. I mean doesn’t every woman hope for a cozy foursome a la Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda? Those who have such cliques are lucky and those that manage to keep them, luckier still. So if for so long we have been told about the joys, gratification and even the necessity of such friendships, why are we suddenly being told that sometimes its necessary to cut off what feels like your right arm?...more

What's the Limit Before Enough Is Enough?

How far are you supposed to go for your significant other?  How much are you supposed to do?  Do you keep giving and giving and giving until you have no more to give or do you cut off the “donations” before you’ve reached your breaking point? Is there ever a time when you just stop giving to the relationship?  Are you allowed to give tough love to a relationship versus continuing to nurture it? I’ve been giving a lot to my relationship…a lot of love, a lot of attention, a lot of time, a lot of money, and a lot o...more

Trust Is a Must

Trusting your mate is essential in a relationship. In fact, I refuse to be in a relationship where trust is an issue because it only leads to bigger issues of jealousy, lack of commitment and insecurities. But recently, trust issues have snuck into my relationship without warning, without permission, without warrant. This unwelcome visitor has added tension to my relationship and has introduced doubt. This tension then has a way of resurfacing any time any problem or issue is introduced that looks anything close to our unwelcomed visitor. ...more