What Chinese New Year Means to My Body Image

Chinese Lunar New Year is just around the corner. What this usually means for me is another one of those potlucks at church, where there’s way too much food prepared by way too many aunties, or a yis as I fondly call them. Like most people, I can’t wait for the hot pots and steamed fish, but as a person who has struggled with my body image, the huge feast brings up complications. In order for me to get my hands on the delicious dishes that they’ve prepared, I have to brace myself for the string of, “Lisa! You’re back! You ______ (insert either lost/gained in blank) weight!”...more
Great article. I'm lucky enough to be from a "big boned" family and so, even though I was teased ...more

Prawn & Coconut Rice Paper Rolls & Thai Supper Club

Prawn & Coconut Rice Paper Rolls & Thai Supper Club  It is hard to believe that we are now half way through our third...more

Teaching My Asian Daughters to be Strong and Confident

By Frances Kai-Hwa Wang A few years ago, I took a seminar called, "Raising Strong and Confident Daughters." My husband laughed at me. "Could our daughters be any stronger or more confident?" ...more
Excellent post. The advocacy you are doing sends an incredibly strong powerful message to your ...more

Stir Fry

It’s quite apparent that I am no food blogger or chef.  I’ve always envied the photos that such bloggers are able to capture of their culinary creations.  I thought I’d try my hand tonight.  My husband and I perused the produce section this evening, and although I don’t particularly like Asian food, I do love stir fry.  I’m quite fond of almost every type of vegetable, which I guess is convenient since veggies are a large part of a healthy diet. I went down the sauce aisle and grabbed a bottle of “Stir Fry Sauce” – real original, I know.  Then I grabbed:...more

Applying to College: Don’t Check Asian. Or Do?

How the Model Minority Myth is Driving Some College Applicants to Hide Their Ethnicity An article published by the Associated Press this weekend highlighted a growing problem among students applying to college: potential discrimination against Asian American applying to elite universities. In particular, Hapa -- or Asian mixed-race -- applicants face the dilemma of whether or not to acknowledge their racial makeup....more
Great post. The Asian kids we know are now repackaging themselves as purple-haired independent ...more

Asian Slaw

Asian Slaw Summer is fast approaching and a new trainer and the annual desire to get in shape has...more

Brown and Yellow Women Dying to be Pale

Do you associate summer with pool parties, picnics, beach trips, and the sunkissed skin that comes with it? As an Asian American woman, I have the kind of complexion that tans easily— my skin darkens by a few shades after a quick lunchtime walk. Unfortunately, as an Asian woman, that’s not the kind of complexion my culture considers beautiful. In fact, it's spawned a lucrative -- and potentially dangerous -- industry of skin lightening products. During a recent beach trip, I found myself huddled on a blanket with several other Asian American women, comparing SPFs and stories of how dark we got during our own childhoods, and how much our mothers lamented it: “Brown as a monkey!”...more
I loved this article. I am Native American, Spanish, and Irish mixed. I have black hair, but ...more

Snowflower and the Secret Fan

I wanted to hate Snowflower and the Secret Fan. Really, I did. Lisa See, I owe you an apology. When I first heard that Lisa See’s bestselling novel Snowflower and the Secret Fan was going to be made into a major movie, I had no desire to watch it. After all, I have managed to avoid See’s series of historical novels, set in ancient China, with their misty titles and Shanghai poster girl cover art. I braced myself for tired old Asian stereotypes to be reinforced to a new generation....more

I seemed to be one of the few people who read the book and didn't like it. I'd probably enjoy ...more

An Open Letter to Internet Creepers

Dear Internet People, I Am Not Your Fetish Object. I am on websites like Adultfriendfinder and Fetlife to explore my sexuality and fetishes- not to be your fetish object.  I know this might be a confusing concept for some of you out there, but women of color have their kinks and turn-ons as well.  While some women might be open to race play many are not.  I’m one of those women ...more

Putting Tiger Parenting in Context of the Immigrant Experience

What drives a parent to force her kids to practice piano or study for hours on end? For many immigrants, it's not so much blind ambition to climb the social ladder... but to merely gain a foothold in a new country. This spring, I've been reading a lot of Asian American literature: Lac Su's I Love Yous Are for White People, Jean Kwok's Girl in Translation, and Erin khue Ninh's Ingratitude. I have to admit, there are some common themes -- the pressure and tangible rewards of academic success, the fraught parent-child relationships....more