Sleeping with your baby: What are the benefits? Is it safe?

The choice of where your baby is going to sleep is a personal and family-specific decision. A lot of parents have a preconceived notion about where their baby will sleep and then the baby's temperment changes all of that. A lot of the information available in the media and from public health authorities on co-sleeping (or bed sharing) is inaccurate and may serve to dissuade parents from making a choice that would work well for their family. If you want to learn more about co-sleeping to decide if it is right for your family and also how to make it safe, please read on: ...more

I co-slept with both my kids. I barely woke to breastfeed (roll, plop out boob, roll back). ...more

Beyond Attached: Wild, Inspired, Tranquil, Ravenous Curiosity, Playful…

What type of parent do you want to be? I asked my twitter followers and then thought about it myself. Beyond being attached (an important base), I want to be wild, inspired, tranquil, curious and playful. Read more about what twitter said and access resources on how to bring these styles into your parenting here: http://phdinparenting.com/2008/11/24/ beyond-attached-wild-inspired-tranquil-ravenous-curiosity-playful/   ...more

Debunking misconceptions about attachment parenting

There are so many misconceptions out there about attachment parenting. Some people think attached parents don't use discipline. Some think that if they do not babywear and co-sleep that they are not attached parents. Some think that they can be attached to their kids just because they want to without actually investing in that attachment. And some people may be pushing their kids away without realizing it. ...more

Sarah Palin and Attachment Parenting - Red and Blue Make Purple

Sarah Palin fascinates me. A conservative woman and an ambitious, working Mom. It doesn't fit into the every day definitions of how we divide the red and the blue and I love reading about how people react to her. It got me to thinking, I wonder what the Attachment Parenting folks think? I've said already in this post, that if I met Dr. Sears, the father of Attachment Parenting, I would punch him... ...more

What deschooling means to me

The last day of school came and went quietly. I stood outside the school gates as usual, under an umbrella in a sudden and violent downpour so typical of these mountains in the summer. Bubble came out of the classroom as she always does, with her dripping school books and paintings under one arm and a piece of paper that told us she had officially completed three years of maternelle pre-school here in France in a grubby hand. She showed no remorse at leaving, just a preoccupation with small things, as any typical five year old has. ...more

Today's Parenting Mantra: To Getting Out the Guilt!

A moment came over me as I was reading one book by an older venerable parenting source, Waldorf educator Rahima Baldwin, and one more recent: the Sears family. As I made connections between the two, I hit upon a little parenting mantra, and some thoughts about parental guilt. read more... ...more

Upside of Lazy

I always considered my self as “energy optimizing”… that is I’d like to do the least amount work for the maximum amount of benefit. OK, my husband would just call me lazy. However, I think there are some merits to what he would call laziness and what I would call smart about use of time and energy… particularly when it comes to parenting. And I think this philosophy fits well with the overall Cave Baby Theory. ...more

Baby Rat Race

Ok, so our daughter is 2 years 4 months… and all the other mommies are exploring preschools. The general “rule” is 2 years 9 months and potty trained as a starting time/point for preschool, at least in the Bay Area. ...more

I hear you loud and clear.  I have a person whom I know whose child has been in school part ...more

Attachment parenting works for us & announcements from API

As many of you know, I'm a big advocate of attachment parenting. I've seen the benefits of raising my children according to AP principles such as breastfeeding (feeding with love), baby wearing, responsive nighttime parenting, gentle discipline, etc. My husband Jody and I didn't start out the road to parenting set on AP, it just kind of happened. ...more

A New Site, a New Direction for Attachment Parenting International

When I was pregnant with Gabriel, I picked up a copy of The Baby Book from the Sears Parenting Library and started reading about his "Baby Bs" (breastfeeding, babywearing, etc.) and Attachment Parenting. I had never heard of the term before, but the more I read, the more I knew that this was the respectful, loving way that I wanted to raise my child. ...more