4 Things I Learned From Dating A Professional Dominatrix

Sex doesn’t have an inherent “meaning.” It’s just a thing we choose to do — or not do.Neale Donald Walsch once wrote that “life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”For me, it was less of a zone and more of a blanket fort — small, inviting, and easily taken down by a stiff wind. At 20 years old, I’d never felt too compelled to branch out and try new things. My dating history was almost nonexistent, and that was fine with me. I was insecure and anxious about being close to anyone, let alone having sex....more

3 Tips for Safe Wax Play

According to a 2015 report released by the U.S. National Fire Protection Association, 22% of nearly 9,500 reported candle injuries in 2014 were related to thermal burns. It means that either the injuries were caused by candle flame, wax or a fire started by a candle. If getting injured by candles accidentally seems so easy, why would anyone consider playing with wax for kinkery? Well, because wax play is fun and unquestionably safe when wisely done....more
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Finding Kink Community

Since my acceptance of my submissive side, I have found myself looking for friends.  With the change in my relationships, it became harder to discuss my love life with the women I’d known for years. Although some difficulty was due to not feeling like explaining things like “sub-frenzy” or my frustrations with FetLife, more was just wanting to be in an environment where I could be my full self.  I went to my first munch at a bowling alley in Atlanta.  I met Dom(me)s and subs. Kinksters and fetishists....more

My Journey Towards Embracing My Submissive Side

It's been nerve-wracking, deciding to post this.  In an effort to write my truth, I took an unintended hiatus, mainly because I was trying to figure out what my truth actually is. Finally, however, I can say it without doubt, or fear: I am a submissive.  ...more
I would like to thank you for your courage and honesty!! Too many people in this world have the ...more

How-To: Sensory Deprivation Play

Why deprive the senses during sexy times? Well, when one or more senses are unable to perform their designated function(s), the ones left active are greatly enhanced. This leaves the person experiencing sensory deprivation play attuned to new, exciting and unique sensations....more

Does No Always Mean No?

No means no. Right? Of course it does, except when it doesn’t....more

Free Book Giveaway on Amazon!

Polyamourous, kinky, sex-positive author promoting an alternative to monogamous, vanilla living.My book "Polyamory and BDSM, Discoving Love, Sex, Vulnerability and Radical Honesty" is out on Amazon worldwide and it is available to download for free tomorrow, May 1st, for 24 hours! Available here: Amazon...more

50 Shades of Safety: A How To

So you watched 50 Shades of Grey and now you're curious? You've read my blog and you're curious? Or you really just have been curious from the beginning and you were too afraid to ask? That's okay. It happens. A lot of people are too afraid to admit their curiousity and are willing to jump in without realizing there is a right way and a wrong way....more

Kink Safely With RACK

RACK, or risk-aware consensual kink, is a system of steps which were collectively created by the kink community so everyone involved can more safely explore and experiment with fetishism, dark erotic fantasies or BDSM acts outside of whatever may be considered their normal routine....more

The Heart & Soul of Dominance and Submission: An Insider's Perspective

I accidentally crossed paths with my first Dominant online when I was going through a divorce seven years ago. My first thought was to run away fast: He must be some whip-toting freak with a dungeon in his basement. Fast-forward to today and I have three Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationships behind me (though I've had vanilla relationships, too), and I can honestly say that each relationship built on the former and has taught me profound things about my body, myself, and even life....more
Your followers may like to know that I recently published online at Amazon/Kindle the following ...more
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