Finding Kink Community

Since my acceptance of my submissive side, I have found myself looking for friends.  With the change in my relationships, it became harder to discuss my love life with the women I’d known for years. Although some difficulty was due to not feeling like explaining things like “sub-frenzy” or my frustrations with FetLife, more was just wanting to be in an environment where I could be my full self.  I went to my first munch at a bowling alley in Atlanta.  I met Dom(me)s and subs. Kinksters and fetishists....more

My Journey Towards Embracing My Submissive Side

It's been nerve-wracking, deciding to post this.  In an effort to write my truth, I took an unintended hiatus, mainly because I was trying to figure out what my truth actually is. Finally, however, I can say it without doubt, or fear: I am a submissive.  ...more
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How-To: Sensory Deprivation Play

Why deprive the senses during sexy times? Well, when one or more senses are unable to perform their designated function(s), the ones left active are greatly enhanced. This leaves the person experiencing sensory deprivation play attuned to new, exciting and unique sensations....more

Does No Always Mean No?

No means no. Right? Of course it does, except when it doesn’t....more

Free Book Giveaway on Amazon!

Polyamourous, kinky, sex-positive author promoting an alternative to monogamous, vanilla living.My book "Polyamory and BDSM, Discoving Love, Sex, Vulnerability and Radical Honesty" is out on Amazon worldwide and it is available to download for free tomorrow, May 1st, for 24 hours! Available here: Amazon...more

50 Shades of Safety: A How To

So you watched 50 Shades of Grey and now you're curious? You've read my blog and you're curious? Or you really just have been curious from the beginning and you were too afraid to ask? That's okay. It happens. A lot of people are too afraid to admit their curiousity and are willing to jump in without realizing there is a right way and a wrong way....more

Kink Safely With RACK

RACK, or risk-aware consensual kink, is a system of steps which were collectively created by the kink community so everyone involved can more safely explore and experiment with fetishism, dark erotic fantasies or BDSM acts outside of whatever may be considered their normal routine....more

The Heart & Soul of Dominance and Submission: An Insider's Perspective

I accidentally crossed paths with my first Dominant online when I was going through a divorce seven years ago. My first thought was to run away fast: He must be some whip-toting freak with a dungeon in his basement. Fast-forward to today and I have three Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationships behind me (though I've had vanilla relationships, too), and I can honestly say that each relationship built on the former and has taught me profound things about my body, myself, and even life....more
Thanks ladies.  I really felt the need to speak to the depths of D/s -- it's about so much more ...more

50 Shades of My Opinion!

Fifty Shades of Grey comes out this weekend.  I confess, I've read the whole book series, and you know what? For the most part, I liked it.  Sure, it's not realistic, according to the true BDSM -ers (if you haven't checked out Fetlife.com, you don't know about serious BDSM -ers), but for us "mostly vanilla" folks, it's fun fantasy fodder (go me, with the alliteration!).  I know that when I first read it, and got to the "checklist," it caused quite a frank discussion among my lady-friends and my husband....more

FetLife and The Single Gal: Submissive Does Not Equal Doormat

So, I've been on FetLife for a little over two years now and some of the messages I get still surprise me. Even when the messages seem sensible, I check out their profile and am caught off-guard by how different it is from the message. I guess things shouldn't surprise me since new members are always joining (and there are douches everywhere), but they do....more
My ex-girlfriend has a sex addiction related to her sexual abuse as a teenager.  She is addicted ...more