The Troubling Message in Fifty Shades of Grey

As someone who believes the world could do with a more open-minded approach to peoples consensual sexual interests, I wanted to like Fifty Shades of Grey. But as I read the book, I found it not only sets people who live a BDSM lifestyle back decades in terms of being understood by society, but that it eroticizes dangerous practices as well, especially for those who are new to this aspect of sexuality and looking to incorporate it into their lives. ...more
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Does Power Make Women Fantasize About Submission?

There is a great need among our species to answer the question of "why," and this need often leads to wild speculation that is very difficult to substantiate. When it comes to BDSM, we cannot ask "why" because the people who practice surrender are not a homogenous group. We're not just women, we're not just straight, we're not just submitting to lovers or even other humans. The answer to the question of "why" is as varied as our numbers are varied. All we can ask is "how." ...more
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The Lure of BDSM & D/s: Women's "Shades of Grey"

Today, as women everywhere breathe heavy over "50 Shades of Grey", an erotic novel complete with role-playing and BDSM, I actually find myself breathing a little easier.  Beause it's something I experienced in real life after I got divorced.  I also chose to tell the world about it in my memoir (gulp).  And at the back of my mind I've always worried, "Is everyone going to think I'm a freak for this?"(Smile) Maybe not....more

Chris Brown Can't Beat Me, or You.

Before I explain how sick to my stomach I felt when reading Tweet after Tweet by women saying, in various ways, we should all stop bitching about Chris Brown, they'd let him beat them all night long, let me make my fondness for rough sex abundantly clear. ...more

The Impact of Sexual Shame

Why is sex always surrounded by shame? Shame is not guilt. Guilt is an internal notion about a specific action. Shame is an external force exerted by others. Shame tells you not that you've done something bad, but that you are something bad. That idea takes away your autonomous control over your sexuality. And anybody who wants to take your autonomous control over your sexuality does not have your best interest at heart. ...more
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When A Passionate Encounter Goes Horribly Wrong

Her wet hair clung to her body, and her wet body pulled the sheets along with it as the two of them collapsed on the mattress, soaking it through. And then a pause. A pause? Yes, a pause. Pause as in: what now? It was like watching something on Netflix, and just when you're getting into it, that dreaded word: buffering. A bad case of life imitating... art? This is her sex life, one tired (and tragic) cliche. It happens to the best of us. ...more
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On Top Of It - The Naked Reader Book Club Ties You Up And Takes Control

This month, the Naked Reader Book Club is focused on taking control. ...more

Win $300 Worth of Quality Kink Gear from HotMoviesForHer! Happy Spanksgiving!

Happy Spanksgiving! It's that time of year again where all we can think about is getting our turkey on, passing the pumpkin pie, and of course, all the wonderful things we have to be thankful for. We here at HotMoviesForHer are seriously thankful for so many things, including getting paid to watch hot porn and test out sexy toys. I know I, for one, am super thankful that I got to finally watch The Human Sexipede......more

Meet Adult Baby Johnny

Yesterday I spent the afternoon with baby johhny. Awesome timing no? I’ve been seeing him for ages.  I’m not sure why – I’m not all that into adult babies. Not that I don’t have fun with him, he’s a fun boy. He used to see another well known Mistress and he wanted to do a double with me. I was thrilled – I had met her, but never played with her. AND?! She was supposed to have an amazing dungeon.  I don’t know who was more excited – baby johnny or me!...more

A Very BDSM Christmas

'Twas the night before Christmas, and in the sex clubThe only creature now stirring, was my new eager sub.The swing was all bolted, my toes she did suck,I was done with the kink now, and was ready to fuck...more