What Does It Mean To Be A "Leftover Woman"?

The Chinese have an expression for women like me. They're called "Leftover Women".   Leftover women are still single past, well, whatever age it is people think they should be married.  The assumption, of course, is that no man wants these women; they are the ones left after all the desirable women are taken. It seems not to have occurred to users of this phrase that some (many?) of these women are right where they want to be.  ...more

Diane Keaton "Comes Around" To Being Single.

Diane Keaton has always been a spinster-I-admire . I like her work and her personality and she always seemed to be happy with her life. So I was a little surprised to read some of her thoughts about being "always single". ...more

The 'First Date' I Should Have Run From

One of the most absurd dates I’ve ever had was, if I’m really honest about it, my fault. It was my fault because, though I’m not responsible for the “gentleman’s” actions, I ignored a feeling in the pit of my stomach that said, “End it now.” Thirty minutes into the date, I knew this was not the guy for me, yet I allowed the date to go on for another three ridiculous hours because, I suppose,  I didn’t want to seem rude, reactionary, like a bitch....more

Rethinking Spinsterhood...Temporarily

I had a miserable night last night and I really needed my (non-existent) husband to step up and handle the situation…make me feel better…act like a man and do manly things....more

What Is That Smell?

Apologies in advance.  This post could be filed under “Unnecessarily Morbid.”  But this is something I think about sometimes.  It usually happens when I hear news about a decaying body being found in an apartment.   The body is not found by a loved one, but usually by the Super or the police because neighbors complained about a foul smell coming from the apartment.  ...more

Is Being Single the New "In" Thing?

There was a time when a woman over, say 35, who was still single was thought of as “less than”…not quite up to par with her better off sisters who had managed to snag a husband…like they’re supposed to.  Something had to be wrong with her, right, because why isn’t she married?  This, actually, wasn’t too long ago.  Two years ago, when I first started writing my book --The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons for Living Happily Single and Childfree-- I got many puzzled looks from lots of people. ...more

You Can't Say That, HR Lady!

I interviewed for a job a few weeks ago that seemed like it could be my dream job…if there’s such a thing, given that I’d have to make my own company, Golden Door Consulting, my part-time gig, if I took it. That’s how almost-perfect this job sounded, so I was delighted when they invited me in for an interview. My first interview was with Human Resources, a nice young lady who kept telling me how impressed she was with my résumé.  I thought, “So, we’re off to a good start.” ...more

The Life and Thoughts of a Confirmed Bachelor

Last week, I was “forced” to cook dinner for a guy I dated a lifetime ago. I wanted to interview him for this blog and the only way he would agree to it was if I cooked for him. (Sigh). So I did.Though we didn’t make it as a couple, he and I have remained friends through the years and it was a fun night.  Why didn’t we make it? There’s no one specific reason,  but I do know that we have different sensibilities about a lot of things.  For example, he didn’t understand why I would get mad when he would use my toothbrush.  Eeeeww!...more

When Being Single Becomes the Norm

By now, we all know about the rise in single people and that, for the first time in U.S. history, there are more single people than there are married people. (http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2011/12/14/barely-half-of-u-s-adults-are-married-a-record-low/).  Interestingly, this increase in single people is not just a U.S. phenomenon: single households have increased 30% worldwide....more

The Real Difference Between Single and Married Women

Last week, I was honored to take part in the filming of a documentary by the Canadian Broadcasting Company (CBC) on single people around the world, called Flying Solo (to be released, Fall, 2013).  As you probably know by now, there are more single people than married people, for the first time in U.S. history.  What you may not know is that this trend is happening all around the world....more