Valentine's Day is Coming. Lighten Up!

When did Valentine’s Day become such a BIG deal? At some point when I wasn’t looking, Valentine’s Day went from being a lighthearted fun semi-holiday -to- another over-the-top, loud, commercial *Holiday* accompanied by feelings of annoyance and angst for so many. It’s not really about “who do you love” anymore. It’s about gifts and lavish displays of…well, I’m not sure what. ...more

Putting a Spin on Valentine's Day

When I was a kid, I loved Valentine’s Day. I got such a kick out of giving out Valentine’s Day cards with big red hearts to all the people who made me happy. I gave them to my parents, my teachers, favorite classmates, my playmates, even the mailman. ...more

10 Secrets of Happily Single Women

From time to time, I’m asked what it’s like to be single for so long (in other words, all my life).  Despite the release of recent U.S. Census numbers that half of the adult U.S. population is single, it’s still a curious state to some. Being single, to some, is still “not normal”. Being happily single is even "curiouser" to lots of people.  Being single is definitely not a utopia (what is?), but there’s a lot about it that’s really good. Singles  don’t always talk about it, but we live it and we just know it....more

Dating Across the Generations

I like men and I like dating and I have an equal opportunity policy in place, in most cases. In other words, I date guys of different ethnicities, religions, political persuasions, and ages. In so many ways, a guy is a guy is a guy and some of the details that I thought would matter often don't....more

Creating a Delicious Life in 2013

In a few months I’m turning 35 years old. I know in the grand scheme of things, 35 is not old, especially, God willing, if I live to be as old as my nearly 100-year-old grandmother. But somehow this impending birthday has me sometimes keeping score of my life during moments of self-doubt. ...more

New Year's Eve: Smashed Expectations

It’s that time of year again.    Every third conversation today and for  the next few days will be about New Year’s Eve: “what are you doing” -or-  “what did you do?”    I often feel compelled to have a response that is at least a little bit interesting and I usually do.  I’ve had lots of fun New Year’s Eve celebrations, but those are not what this posting is about today.  This post is about those New Year’s Eve celebrations that were… uh… weird.  ...more

Single? A Few Great Ideas for New Year's Eve

By now, every person on earth (or in the U.S) has most likely participated in at least one conversation where New Year’s Eve plans were the topic. Some people look forward to it, others dread it. Those who look forward to it usually have something pretty special planned. Those who dread it usually don’t. Lots of people harbor anxiety over New Year’s Eve, primarily, because of what seems to be the intense pressure to do something - something festive, something big. I think single women feel this even more than most. ...more

Spinsterlicious Gift Guide for Awesome Single Ladies

As a single woman, I'm often amused at how little attention we get during the holiday season. There are Gift Guides for Mom, Dad, the college student, teens and tweens, teachers, bosses, and even bachelors. But I've never seen one for single women. Arguably, single women shouldn’t necessarily need their own gift guide… except if just about everyone else gets one, why can’t we? Heck, we like gifts too! But we like good gifts, not fuzzy socks, robes and pajamas; not t-shirts and mugs with corny jokes about being single; and we don’t want a pink tool kit....more

Geez, Another Holiday Party...By Myself

Yep.  The Big Holiday Season is almost upon us.  And there will be lots of parties for people of every ilk.  Work parties, client parties, Christmas parties, Hannukah gatherings, Kwanzaa celebrations, New Year's Eve (and Day) festivities, community events...  No matter who you are, you'll probably be expected to attend more than one....more

On a Bad Date? Now What?

I’ve been on more than a few bad dates in my lifetime, but I haven’t had a seriously bad date in a long time.  That’s because I’ve learned what to do…and what not to do. Here’s a few tips on how to cut your “oh no!” dates down to a minimum (and, of course, I’m assuming that the badness in the bad date is not your fault): The Only Tip You Really Need...more