Black Tank + Cage Sandals.

When it comes to my closet, I can never have enough black. Black t-shirts, black jeans, black trousers, black pumps, etc. Gimme, gimme, sign me up....more

Does My Child Have to Be Better Because She's Black?

I've had teachers say it to me. Lots of my mentors said it. Once, a supervisor at work mentioned it. I've overheard folks telling their own children, educators telling other people's kids, and I'm sure that I've even said it a time or two in my years of teaching. ...more
ValBoaten YES!!! "Our expectations of our children should not be based on what other perceive, ...more

Mayonnaise Treatment

Choose a shampoo.  Wash hair thoroughly.  Towel dry.  Apply about half a cup of  mayonnaise to hair;  you may use more or less depending on length.  Leave it on  for about 15 minutes.  This will give the mayonnaise time to fill in the cuticle  layer.  The smoothness will keep the hair from tangling when being brushed.   Rinse well and be sure to ...more

Why Doesn't the Black Community Value Marriage?

Take a good look at this newly happily married couple. Notice something? See the baby bump? Yep, it was a shotgun wedding, but no one was worried about being wounded. Full disclosure: I know the parents of the groom. No way they were co-signing their grandchild being brought into the world illegitimately, but the truth is, that young guy is deeply in love with his bride. Here is another cultural difference that we just can’t ignore: while the out-of-wedlock rate is rising across the races, every other race EXCEPT for the black race values making babies within wedlock....more
Just found out that a 28 yo friend is pregnant w/her bf of the last 9 mos. She is smart, funny ...more

Writer Naomi Schafer Riley Continues the War Against Cultural Studies

In the past year, pundits have written that Black women are undesirable, Black youth would succeed if they'd only work as hard as their white counterparts, and now even Black academics are being attacked as incompetent to study... being Black....more

Obama Can Change Black Hearts, Minds For Gay Rights

One of the best outcomes of Obama's endorsement of gay marriage has been the inspiration and courage it has given a lot of African-American church goers to likewise vocalize their support....more
Fantastic post Kelly, so well written! more

Went To Black Church Tonight... Am I Supposed To Be Black?

I'm curious to see what the BlogHer community has to say about my visit to black church: http://www.everydayunderwear.com/2012/04/went-to-black-church-tonight-am-i.html Please keep in mind that it's a humor blog and any hateful comments will be deleted and not acknowledged. I'm only addressing grown-ups here ;0) ...more

Women of Color: The Silent Victims of the Mommy Wars

Apparently, only white women get to argue about whether to stay home or seek employment out of the house. That’s the takeaway I got from the online vitriol sparked last week by Ann Romney and Hillary Rosen. It doesn’t matter whether it’s 2012, 1992, or 1972 — the Mommy Wars continue to pit white, privileged women against even more privileged white women. ...more
Very well thought out post, bringing to light the other layers in the "mommy wars" beyond the ...more

911 Tapes Indicate Shooter Lied in Death of Trayvon Martin

[Editor's Note (updated March 20): Trayvon Martin, a black 17-year old boy, was shot and killed on February 26 on his way back from buying candy and ice tea at a Florida convenience store. A white neighborhood watch volunteer, George Zimmerman, claims he shot the boy out of self-defense....more
I am still shocked by this and by the recorders; George Zimmerman clearly says: "These fucking ...more

Downloading Dad: Searching for Black History

When my father, age 91, told me a few weeks ago that a woman, born Augustine Lemieux Stevens (a.k.a. Gussie), had died, I shuddered for moment in a spasm of grief. I grieved not because I knew Ms. Gussie but because I did not know her....more