Is Your Child Depressed? It's Probably Your Fault, Mom

Recently scientists declared children of women who did not finish high school were twice as likely to experience a major episode of depression in early adulthood as children whose mothers obtained a high school diploma, according to a new study by researchers at McGill University. The study authors also noted while a mother’s education affected a child’s chance for depression, the father’s education had no impact on his child....more
@JennaHatfield It's not this study in particular. It was just the one that broke the camel's ...more

Bumbo Blame: Why Must We Always Point Fingers?

For the most part, product recalls don't affect me much. Either I'm using recalled items and I'm unaware of the recall, or I just don't happen to own many things that have been recalled. The recent Bumbo recall is so aggravating to me, because I love our Bumbo seat and I hope to continue using it for Baby #2, who is expected to arrive this November. What bothers me even more, however, is the negative media response to this; one that seeks to place the blame on someone. Many people are defending the Bumbo seat, but at the cost of blaming the parents for irresponsibility or inattention. In some cases I am sure children fell from Bumbo seats because parents were truly being inattentive -- but even this does not indicate the need to point fingers....more
Man, this story makes my heart stop. I have a nine-month old and accidents happen and it is hard ...more

Stop Blaming Mother

A mother is a terrible thing to waste. To all adult children who point to their mother as the focal point of their life’s misfortunes, it's really time to grow up.Millions of adult children, some of them already grandparents themselves, still spend time and money on the therapist's couch, ruminating about everything their mother did or didn’t do, does or doesn’t do. These adults don’t see themselves as the imperfect human their own mother is....more

Real power in responsibility

It seems to me that as a people we are no longer able to take responsibility for our own actions. If we are heavy then it must be the fault of fast food chains. If we are poor than it is a result of the government. If we have any kind of "issue" then it must be because of our parents. How sad. ...more

Somewhere in the Middle?

Should I have expectations or keep hold of hope? Expectations are bound to disappoint while hope can strengthen a weary heart. But then as Proverbs points out, “hope deferred makes the heart sick”. Shall I continue to seek out safe places in this world or should I seek to be one?...more

Brilliance of Color

What is it about trees that turn brilliant yellow, red or orange that never fails to take my breath away? Neighborhood streets are lined with these glorious sentinels and the hillsides are peppered with them. Even the local cemetery where I often walk is resplendent with trees gone riotous with color –perhaps signaling a fête, an elaborate outdoor festival, this time celebrating death as simply one of life’s journeys....more

Squirrel in the Garden!

The redwood out in front has produced a soft carpet of gorgeously brilliant, golden needles –and the rains have finally come. Everything in CiCi’s Garden looks invitingly fresh with rain-polished leaves glossy after a downpour. Rain-polished leaves in CiCi's Garden...more

Guardian Hippo

My friend Esther recently returned from a trip to Tanzania, Africa, where she and a friend had the privilege of watching the Great Migration in the Serengeti. It was the trip of a lifetime as they saw an amazing array of people, scenery and animals –including elephants that woke them in the wee hours each morning as the huge beasts wandered through camp eating the trees around their tents....more

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Guardian Hippo

My friend Esther recently returned from a trip to Tanzania, Africa, where she and a friend had the privilege of watching the Great Migration in the Serengeti. It was the trip of a lifetime as they saw an amazing array of people, scenery and animals –including elephants that woke them in the wee hours each morning as the huge beasts wandered through camp eating the trees around their tents....more

Come As You Are

It’s come as you are when visiting my blog, CiCi’s Garden –otherwise what would be the point? To be welcome, guests need not sanitize or in any way alter how they express their reality. The Garden is a place where frank conversation is embraced, emotions respected and affirmed while at the same time encouragement is offered to those who long to know that wounded hearts can heal –even if it takes a lifetime. However, no judgments are made one way or another. My own mother died without ever finding peace, and that’s reality, too....more