Dear Jennifer Lawrence, Saying "Fat" on TV is Okay

In your recent interview with Barbara Walters, you stated that you thought it "should be illegal to call someone fat on TV." While I understand the context in which you said it – that the adjective "fat" is used to hurt and demean women – I am uncomfortable with this statement. I’m uncomfortable with it because the adjective "fat" is just that, an adjective describing someone’s body type. It’s already a negative thing. Why make it a taboo thing to say when for many people, it’s just a true descriptor of how they look? ...more
Oh geez. It's pretty clear she was exaggerating to make a point. Calling someone "fat" as ...more

Dear Concern Troll: It’s Not Me, It’s You

I can get behind a lot of that thinking, though I do believe that there’s one key point that we need to keep in mind when we’re having these discussions. The goal should be to be honest without being hurtful. Too often in our society, we turn to barbed comments and snarky remarks to address things that we don’t like about someone else. Often, these remarks are in the guise of concern, hence the term “concern-trolling.” ...more
As I was labeling my frozen dinners to put in the office freezer one day a co-worker said to me ...more

6 Reasons Why There’s No Wrong Way to be a Woman

Oh, boy. There’s been an advent of articles lately that seem custom-made to shame women. Mrs. Hall’s post addressed to all the girls her sons interact with, for one. 6 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College, for another. And it makes me sad....more

Fat Talk: Why Kids Need to Hear Us Talk About Our Bodies

Everyone in my life has said it at least once. “I don’t like the way I look. I want to change it so that I can feel better.” ...more
Americans have long had an ideal body type when it comes to women but the shape itself has gone ...more

Finding a New Purpose for the Mirror

I was feeling great one San Francisco night when I ran into some childhood friends. My enthusiastic greetings were met with icy stares and cold words, and our encounter quickly went sour. They began to beat me. My face was their primary target, and each strike left me more hurt and confused. Bleeding and blinded, I was abandoned on the cement. ...more
I'm sorry you were hurt, but what a wonderful post. One that I'm sure will lift many people's ...more

Love On My Arm: How My Tattoo Made Me More Body Positive

It’s that thing no one talks about, but everyone who’s in the club understands. That thing where you cast a look down at someone’s arms when they say they were depressed, and you look for the telltale signs on their skin. Do they cover them with bracelets or sleeves? Do they show them off, uncaring? How many do they have? What do theirs look like?...more

Why I Don't Watch My Kids' Weight

I don't worry about my kids weight or their body shapes, because I don't want them to. I make sure they know that bodies come in all sizes and that theirs are perfect just the way they are. And then I make sure they have access to bikes, I save one dollar bills so they can go swimming all summer, I make sure they have free access to nutritious foods and I get out of the way....more
New way of thinking. It does make sense.  Thank you for the great post!more