The Troubling Message in Fifty Shades of Grey

As someone who believes the world could do with a more open-minded approach to peoples consensual sexual interests, I wanted to like Fifty Shades of Grey. But as I read the book, I found it not only sets people who live a BDSM lifestyle back decades in terms of being understood by society, but that it eroticizes dangerous practices as well, especially for those who are new to this aspect of sexuality and looking to incorporate it into their lives. ...more
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Does Power Make Women Fantasize About Submission?

There is a great need among our species to answer the question of "why," and this need often leads to wild speculation that is very difficult to substantiate. When it comes to BDSM, we cannot ask "why" because the people who practice surrender are not a homogenous group. We're not just women, we're not just straight, we're not just submitting to lovers or even other humans. The answer to the question of "why" is as varied as our numbers are varied. All we can ask is "how." ...more
Mmm very bewildering and something that I might have got into when I was a Catholic with a kind ...more

Give That Special Someone A Sexy Holiday Surprise

The holidays are quickly approaching. What are your gift plans for that special someone in your life?  There are so many wonderful things that you can buy, but wait.  Why not make this holiday season extra sexy and special?  Gift cards, clothes, watches, cologne or perfume are always great options.  However, why not turn it up a notch and give a gift that can bring you and your partner closer together?...more

Just a little Tied Up...

…Just a LITTLE ‘Tied Up’… Ok, I could come up with a myriad of excuses for why it’s been so long since I’ve written, ranging from severe illness to complete hibernation (winters in Michigan will do that to a person)….and those excuses would not be completely untrue. However, I’d rather just say, “I’ve been a little tied up.” That expression always makes me smile. ...more