When Your Body Breaks Your Heart

When I started The Shape of a Mother in 2006, I had expected posts full of pictures of bellies, pregnant and postpartum, lined with joy and growth, wrinkled with love. Stories of women who learned to love themselves despite looking so different from the airbrushed models of magazines, stories of women who loved themselves because they looked so different. ...more

How horrible. My heart goes out to them.

Bonnie
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Embracing My Flakiness

As a flaky person, I say stupid stuff, forget things too often and -- most embarrassing for some reason -- miss freeway exits on a weekly basis. And my heart sinks with self-hatred deep into my stomach each time I realize I've driven too far. If a friend told me she responded this way to something as silly as missing a freeway exit, I'd be horrified. ...more

Wait. Are you saying sandals don't belong in the refrigerator??

Bonnie
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Maiden, Mother, Crone: My Body and My Spirituality

Loving, supportive friends are not unlike mothers in some ways, and by being a loving and supportive friend, you are mothering someone, and effectively learning how to treat yourself in the process. Mothering my children and being mothered by my friends has taught me how to mother myself, and that has helped me grow so that I can help others. ...more
I think I may still be in the maiden stage because I just get overwhelmed when I think about the ...more

Own Your Beauty: Why I Got Inked

For many years I wasn't into the idea of permanently marking my body with tattoos –- what if I changed my mind? And then, of course, I had children and my body was permanently marked in a way I really didn't choose. Suddenly, the permanency of ink didn't seem so intimidating. It's all a part of my story, anyway, isn't it? My scars speak of injuries or pregnancies; my tattoos speak of my children and my personal growth. ...more
Great story and very nice replies. My wife-to-be got two tattoos before we were married because ...more

Own Your Beauty: The Story of You, Perfectly Imperfect

The entire act of living is imperfect (and that is beautiful), so why on Earth do we expect this aspect to be any different? But what's more is that once one has embraced imperfection, she finds that it, in itself, is beautiful. Each little line that caresses my belly, the joy springing around my eyes, the strands of silver hiding among my ash-brown hair -– this is my road map that will show you my travels. And the path my story has taken has been twisted and difficult at times, but I wouldn't change it for anything because it brought me to where I am now. And my body will show you that. ...more

It never ever gets old hearing such things. ♥more

Own Your Beauty, Month 1: The Authentic Woman's Body

I began to notice little glimpses of other women's bodies. Mothers who were clearly never overweight but who still carried the marks of a pregnancy, mothers who had stretch marks all the way down their legs, just like I did, women with unconventional proportions, even some men with stretch marks. ...more

Thank you for that, Lisa, thank you for everything. :)more

Add Your Name to BlogHer's Own Your Beauty Statement of Belief

Own Your Beauty. Change The Conversation. We are the beautiful people. All women. Every one of us. And that's amazing. Let’s own it. Let's collaborate on a definition of beauty that celebrates what makes each of us unique, inside and out. Instead of measuring ourselves against some airbrushed, Photoshopped ideal, let’s tailor the standard of beauty to suit ourselves. ...more

Own Your Beauty Host Blogger: Bonnie Crowder of The Shape of a Mother

Bonnie Crowder is a homeschooling mom to two children in Southern California. She started The Shape of a Mother in July of 2006 because she believed that women have the right to know the truth about what bodies look like, and that knowing the truth can help to heal from deeply painful self-esteem issues. ...more