What Boomers Want

 Laxatives. Depends. Lubricants. Viagra. Osteoporosis medicines. Walk-in bathtubs....more
There are many things Boomers want and want to do. I just read several good guest posts from ...more

Boomer Questionnaire: Where Will We Live Next?

(originally posted on Better After 50)In the new French “comedy,” All Together, Jane Fonda’s character, Annie, asks, “we plan out so much of our lives, so why didn’t we plan for this final time?”...more

The Woman in the Mirror: a Personal Reflection

I remember sitting in a college French class absently twirling a string of my hair and half listening to the professor talk about idiomatic expressions. Until one in particular caught my attention.Etre bien dans sa peauThe literal translation is "to feel well in one's own skin." It means to feel good about yourself. But typically the expression is used in the negative -- ne pas etre bien dans sa peau -- and relates to anxiety or dissatisfaction with yourself. As in "I'm too fat, too thin, not pretty enough, not smart enough ..." Wow, I thought....more

After 50, No Positive Milestones?

If you're post-menopausal and (one hopes) female, you've probably got at least as many years left as the number you spent raising your kids. Men, a little less but still plenty. What milestones might you be looking forward to in this, the second half of your one precious life?Here's what the culture tells you to expect:...more

Six things that differentiate a boomer from a senior

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Are Older Women Really Invisible?

I keep hearing that we older women become invisible, but I don’t know if I believe it.I think invisibility is like a new car: once you buy it, you see that model everywhere.Recently I read a post wherein an older woman (OW) claimed to be invisible because, while she stood at a counter talking with a clerk, a younger woman came up and got the clerk’s attention. And this happened on two occasions! The OW was greatly offended....more

Is The American Dream Dead?

A few days ago on Morning Joe, the CEO of Gallup (the polling company) expressed surprise, if not dismay, that the American Dream has changed. According to polls, Americans no longer define the Dream as "peace, a home and family, religious freedom..." Now, they long for "a good job." I am not kidding....more

LOSING YOUR LOVE IS LOSING YOUR HISTORY

MISSING THE HISTORY In the long months after my husband died, what I missed most was HIM -- his person, his presence, the joy of feeling completed by another human being. Over the long term (5 years), with the rawest of grief abated, what I miss most is our shared history. After more than 30 years of living and loving together, a couple can speak volumes with a single glance, feel contentedly linked during periods of silence, understand thoughts expressed in incomplete sentences, or not expressed not at all....more

Allende On Aphrodisiacs

COOKING RIGHT FOR MR RIGHT  I greatly admire Isabelle Allende for her sumptuous writing, but who knew she was also a sensuous cook?  In her delightfully idiosyncratic “Aphrodite” she promises this dish, Noodles with Artichokes, will move lovers quickly “from gluttony to lust” -- because, she claims, it’s saturated with aphrodisiacs. Ergo, a thoroughly satisfying night of passion is sure to follow.  Try it on your Old Mr....more