I write and I have a blog. I follow many blogs covering a wide range of subject matter. Some of them are referred to as 'mommy blogs.' I'll be turning 60 this August, so while I can still relate to the trials and tribulations of toddlerdom, the wake-up calls for mommy at 3 a.m. and remember well the difficulties in trying to squeeze 20 hours of tasks into the 18 in which I was semi-awake, it's the more controversial issues confronting mothers today that interest and sometimes disturb me....more
I breastfed my first child for twenty months. I said that I was only going to do it for six months, but he was still little at six months, so a year seemed more appropriate. A year came and went and he was still, well, little. I wasn't planning on becoming an extended breastfeeder, those odd women nursing kids old enough to ask for milk, but when it was my son making the baby sign for milk (he was on the late side of talking) it didn't seem weird anymore. ...more
I vaguely remember meeting Aram for the first time.He was three days old and they wheeled me into the NICU. One of the nurses rolled me up to a little plastic container holding him.I went to peek in but before I could see him another nurse stopped me. “I’m sorry, I just need to check your ID bracelet and make sure it matches the baby’s. I know, you’re thinking ‘but I know my own baby!’ I’m sorry, it’s just protocol.” Overwhelming sadness came over me. I had never seen him before…I wouldn’t know my own baby and I was happy she was checking the bracelet to make sure....more
There is a common myth that you can’t nurse with implants; this isn’t true. When done properly and with minimal damage, breastfeeding after a boob job should not be a problem. For me it was. I tried to nurse Luciano. I had recently had my first set of implants removed and it was excruciating. I tried for a few weeks but I gave up pretty quickly. With Serendipity, I was adamant that I wasn’t going there again. There was no way I would put myself through such a horrible experience a second time. I was harassed guided by nurses and well-meaning family members for days. Three days after she was born, I finally decided to give it a try. It was just as horrible as I remembered and it only lasted a few weeks....more
What do you do when you have a baby who refuses to eat or drink anything except breast milk directly from the source? If the baby is younger than 6 weeks, you'll have a better chance at helping them get used to a bottle. If they are older than 7 or 8 weeks, this may be a big challenge that can reduce everyone in the family to tears. ...more
I've never talked about it very much on the blog, (sorry if this it TMI) but Jimi was not so good at nursing. Or maybe it was my parts malfunctioning, but whatever it was it was never easy for us. From the beginning I was concerned with his latch but whenever I asked the nurses and lactation consultants for help, he would do it perfectly and they would claim there was no problem. I started using a nipple shield which seemed to help a lot until he was about two months old. Then he would nurse for an hour, stop, and just scream....more
One of the most startling discoveries I made upon becoming a mom is that parenting is a competitive sport in which there are no winners. Something as simple and necessary as feeding your child is cause for judgement and snobbery from parents who do it differently.
When my twins were infants, we fed them using bottles. In public, this garnered a lot of attention. Were we feeding them formula? It was scandalous.
The answer, for the first three months, was no. I was pumping my heart and my breasts out daily to give nourishment to my incredibly tiny...more
I am on a mission to get Penny to take a bottle. I have decided that as much as I enjoy breastfeeding, it might be nice to get out of the house for more than an hour without the baby in tow in the next year. Not that Sean and I really go anywhere, or have regular babysitters, but just in case. ...more