3 Tips For Setting Boundaries

Boundaries can, and should be set with those in our lives who feel they have a right to disrupt our happiness. These people can include close friends, co-workers, and family members. Boundaries are a tool to be utilized to promote self care, and putting ourselves before others. Although that may seem selfish, it’s very difficult for some of us to be fully present with the people around us if we’re unhappy. Sometimes in order to do that, we need to tackle the uncomfortable task of setting boundaries with those who we love dearly, but have a tendency to bring us down....more

What Can't I Blog About?

To paraphrase The Bloggess, "I have no filter, but I do have boundaries." Every time something big happens, my fingers itch to type it up here. I got so used to sharing everything, here, when the biggest things that were happening were related to getting pregnant and being pregnant, that maybe I just think of this space as a place to hold all my emotional burdens. I get more support than trolling, so when I want to lighten that load, I come here. Except... ...more

Saying No

“No,” she said, without any hesitation, anger, irritation, or energy about making a point. There wasn’t even an implied question mark at the end to ask if it was okay that she was saying “no,” or a trailing off as though she was regretful or might change her mind. She didn’t rationalize or justify her “no.” It was simply “no.”...more

3 Tips for Setting Boundaries

Boundaries can, and should be set with those in our lives who feel they have a right to disrupt our happiness. These people can include close friends, co-workers, and family members. Boundaries are a tool to be utilized to promote self care, and putting ourselves before others. Although that may seem selfish, it’s very difficult for some of us to be fully present with the people around us if we’re unhappy....more

TRAPPED!

It is Friday.  Once again it is time for Friday Fictioneers and our tales from our imaginations.  We are hosted by Rochelle Wisoff-Fields of Addicted to Purple.  Here is my story this week of 100 words....more

Eight.Three.Zero.

My oldest son's room looks like a bomb went off in it and exploded with toys.  Toy trucks, cars, buses, trains, books, alphabet and building blocks and stuff animals cover almost the entire floor of his room.  When I go into his room, I have to be careful where I step because if I don't, I'll risk tripping over, kicking, stepping on them risking a stumped big toe or a strain ankle or just pain period of the foot reign.  I would come into his room to read him a story and all I see is land mines of toys.  I would have to kick a path through his toys to his bed to sit on it...more

I Facebook Unfriend Even My Fantasy Crushes To Keep My Space BS Free...

So there was this guy... kinda had a crush on him for what felt like forever... and he seemed to fancy me right back. We've had a few really fun conversations on the phone, but he opted to TEXTING the majority of the time (yup, even our "deeper" convos - RED FLAG). He would say (via text, of course) the most perfect words to make me smile... but didn't really follow through on anything. (RED FLAG) ...more

Stop Being Too Nice

Can you be too nice during divorce? Absolutely!Being too nice during your divorce can cost you…money, assets and even the kids.  I’ve heard many stories of regret and loss due to taking the ‘high road’ and being ‘nice’.  This is especially true for us women as we are raised to be caring and nurturing. It’s part of our feminine quality.  It’s double true for women who make the decision to leave.  They, more than anyone are troubled with guilt which leads to being too nice and trying to keep everyone happy....more

Do You Have Healthy Boundaries?

How healthy are your boundaries?  Maybe you think about this directly and often, maybe not. Boundaries weren’t something I personally spent much time thinking about for many years. I’ve often related to the concept of boundaries in a negative way.  Of course I’ve known they’re important, especially in the context of parenting, relationships, and work, but the idea of having clear and specific boundaries had sometimes seemed limiting or restrictive to me....more