My oldest son's room looks like a bomb went off in it and exploded with toys.  Toy trucks, cars, buses, trains, books, alphabet and building blocks and stuff animals cover almost the entire floor of his room.  When I go into his room, I have to be careful where I step because if I don't, I'll risk tripping over, kicking, stepping on them risking a stumped big toe or a strain ankle or just pain period of the foot reign.  I would come into his room to read him a story and all I see is land mines of toys.  I would have to kick a path through his toys to his bed to sit on it...more

I Facebook Unfriend Even My Fantasy Crushes To Keep My Space BS Free...

So there was this guy... kinda had a crush on him for what felt like forever... and he seemed to fancy me right back. We've had a few really fun conversations on the phone, but he opted to TEXTING the majority of the time (yup, even our "deeper" convos - RED FLAG). He would say (via text, of course) the most perfect words to make me smile... but didn't really follow through on anything. (RED FLAG) ...more

Stop Being Too Nice

Can you be too nice during divorce? Absolutely!Being too nice during your divorce can cost you…money, assets and even the kids.  I’ve heard many stories of regret and loss due to taking the ‘high road’ and being ‘nice’.  This is especially true for us women as we are raised to be caring and nurturing. It’s part of our feminine quality.  It’s double true for women who make the decision to leave.  They, more than anyone are troubled with guilt which leads to being too nice and trying to keep everyone happy....more

Do You Have Healthy Boundaries?

How healthy are your boundaries?  Maybe you think about this directly and often, maybe not. Boundaries weren’t something I personally spent much time thinking about for many years. I’ve often related to the concept of boundaries in a negative way.  Of course I’ve known they’re important, especially in the context of parenting, relationships, and work, but the idea of having clear and specific boundaries had sometimes seemed limiting or restrictive to me....more

Do Boundaries=Rejection?

I'm a 'fences make good neighbors' kinda gal.I like my space.If I were an animal I'd be a cat, with a meticulously perfumed border around my domain....more

Over-Giving: Are You Putting Your Business at Risk?

Lately I've been on a weekly pilgrimage to a local microbrewery to try their new beers and fill my growler. While I'm not a huge beer drinker (more of a wine geek), I like good and interesting brews. I particularly love this brewery for their innovative creations. Their friendliness is a huge boost as well. They are up and coming and growing fast with a loyal following. Recently while I was sipping my samples, the owner was having a conversation with someone who stopped in looking for a donation for an upcoming event and my ears perked up as I overheard some of what was said. ...more
@Kristen Daukas Oh good for you!  I wrote all about that "pick your brain thing"... you might ...more

Facebook Boundaries

          I am Facebook friends with a lot of Mormons from my childhood and adolescent years.  Some of them - mostly peers from my teenage years - I befriended.  Others friended me - some of the requests were from people I hadn’t seen in years and so I found myself at a loss as to how specific I needed to be about my break with the Mormon Church.  Should I be up-front about the issue or should I just assume they either knew or didn’t care?...more
 @Champagne Tastes Thank you, Champagne.  :)more

A Numbers Game

The question felt like it came from out of thin air. “So, what does it feel like to have such self confidence?” It took everything I had to refrain from looking behind me and mumbling “I’m sorry, are you talking to me?”. It came from a woman in her late 20s who was part of an evening group that I had recently joined. The age group was varied and sparked lots of interesting dialogue, this one being no exception.  She was looking at me curiously with a matter of fact gaze that suggested she was genuinely interested in my answer. ...more