Why Your Boyfriend Must Also Be Your Best Friend

Some people might argue that a love relationship is not the same as a friendship. We might say that a love relationship is actually a lot more than a friendship because it is a friendship plus intimacy. We share with our lovers things that we might never share with our friends. However, the line between friendship and love can often be blurry and it is highly possible for a friendship to evolve into love....more

How to Get a Life (so you can get a boyfriend)

Please don’t complete me. And I won’t complete you. As romantic as Jerry Maguire is, “you complete me” is pathetic. In fact it can even destroy your relationship. The last thing you want to be is half of a whole. Because that translates to an incomplete person. And when it comes to relationships, two halves do not make a whole. They add up to an unhealthy, codependent, needy and insecure duo. And that’s not sexy, nor does it have longevity. ...more

When My Boyfriend's Friends Hit on Me

I’m not generalizing, (I kind of am), but I can bet that at some point if you ever had a boyfriend, and he ever had friends, the likelihood that said friends would hit on you is very high. Like probably. Probably definitely. Most of the time it is completely harmless and can even be flattering, am I right ladies? A boyfriend’s friend hits on you and it could be all sorts of validation. I’m pretty enough; I’m cool enough; he likes me - I’m here to stay....more

4 Things I Learned After Moving In With My Boyfriend

At 19, I remember a precise moment when I felt I had a grip on this life thing. Somehow I thought I had matured to this ripe age when I could function as a grown up in society.I was attending NYU and my parents didn’t want to pay for me to live in the dorm because they believed we lived close enough for me to commute. I did this for half of a semester and will not elaborate as to why three modes of transportation before class might be a buzzkill to the “college experience.”...more

My 5 Year Old Daughter Has a Boyfriend

I take the term boyfriend seriously and have only handed it out to three people, two of whom I eventually married. Other men coveted the title, but I was stingy with my endowment. My daughter understood the significance of the title boyfriend. After all, until last year, my husband had been my boyfriend for ten years, five of them with her around....more

My New Boyfriend

I have a new boyfriend.  He’s a little young, 6 years…but ‘technically’ that’s 42 in people years.He was recommended from a friend.  Which is the best kind.  I had met him through her — we clicked instantly....more

Do You Have a Starbucks Boyfriend?

I have a boyfriend. It’s just he doesn’t know we’re an item. Our relationship is special in that we only exist within the walls of Starbucks, where he works as a barista. ...more
When I was 17, I had a massive crush on the local coffee house barista. He looked like a model; ...more

Be The Boyfriend You Wish You Had

Yes, you read the title correctly. It was a toss up between the one I chose and “Treat Yourself The Way You Wanted To Be Treated.” I don’t know how guys are, but when girls get together, all we do is bitch about our boyfriends. What they do wrong, why they can’t do anything right, what stupid ass thing they said, what stupid ass thing they did, etc, etc.We could literally go on all day long. The ranting and raving usually ends with an end-of-the-night “I don’t want you to get the wrong idea because he really is a great guy” or “But I really do love him” — to which we always reply, “You don’t have to say that. I know he’s a good guy and, if you didn’t love him, you wouldn’t be with him.” Sometimes I like to throw in “because he’s such a dumbass that why would you be with him if you didn’t love the idiot?”.Anyway, after years upon years of complaining about our boyfriends’ juvenile stupidity, my friends and I have decided to be the boyfriend that we wish we had. It’s pretty much the same concept as the Destiny’s Child’s Independent Women song. You can love him as much as you want, but don’t let his actions make you feel bad anymore....more

5 things that all girls need to know going into the NBA playoffs

5 things that all girls need to know going into the NBA playoffsEvery girl wants their boyfriend to think that they are “cool enough” to hang with the guys. Well it’s that time  of year again when your boyfriend is glued to EPSN to watch the NBA playoffs. The hype has been possibly, even higher this year with the Donald Sterling racism remarks; so here are 5 things that you need to know so that you can join in the sports talk with your man:...more

Minding my own business, when suddenly -- what the HELL just HIT me?

Darcy Perdu of www.sothenstories.comSo then…the music soars to a crescendo as the actors scurry about the Broadway stage -- which my boyfriend and I can see perfectly from our fantastic theatre seats. Just as we’re experiencing the spectacular re-enactment of the Fall of Saigon, something comes hurtling off the stage and hits me square in the chest. I am stunned. ...more