4 Ways You Can Get Back Into the Dating Game

 I’ve had several conversations about break ups recently: Why they happen, the words people use when they end things, the surprise from some when it happens, the relief that it brings to a few, and the sadness that goes along with it. Just because I write a blog and some of my posts are about relationships, I’m no expert. I’m far from it. I just write what I know based on my experience and what I hear and learn from those I know. I’m out there navigating this strange and fascinating world of dating myself and still learning each and every day. You would think by now that I got this. I don’t. ...more

Seduced by Solitude

“I just hope you can figure yourself out.”He found three different ways express this thought. That me putting an end to the relationship meant that there was something inherently “wrong” with me. I needed to “get it together,” “figure it out,” oh and my favorite, that I’m “so used to dysfunction.”None of the above was true. Nor was there anything wrong with him.For two weeks the word “Alone” sat in the forefront of my brain. Glittering. Gleaming. It started out as a seductive whisper and became an authoritative scream. I wanted to be alone....more

Mind Tricks Aren't Just for Jedis: Top 4 Ways to Dump Your Mate Without Dumping Your Mate

Resistance is futile. You're at the end of your rope. The relationship has drawn to an unsatisfying end. Despite five screaming matches, four silent treatments, three nasty emails, two doors slammed, and a prayer that your partner would fall off the edge of a round Earth, they refuse to let go. Refuse to stop calling. Refuse to stop stalking your house....more

Little Miss Well-Adjusted. Well Maybe.

http://wordsandmusic365.blogspot.com/2012/03/little-miss-well-adjusted-well-maybe.html...more

The Renovation Relationship

I'm a real fixer, lining up and dating these guys like they were so many houses to paint and rewire, then turn over to new owners, making a tidy profit in social capital. I was going to make them better, you see, so when I left, they'd know it was okay, because they were in pretty good shape. But is there really a way I can fix this man enough that he won't be shattered when I leave -- or is that just one of the in-denial, rationalizing lies I tell myself? ...more
Hi, Susan.  Speaking as a member of the less fair gender, I can promise you that men are ...more

Did We Learn Anything from "Fatal Attraction"? Do Women Really Go Psycho at a Break-up?

A random guy and his friends approach me while my girlfriends and I wait for a table in a restaurant.  These guys are insistent that if they break up with a woman, she turns into Glenn Close's Alex from Fatal Attraction. Is this really her fault or is he to blame?  Or is he just making excuses for being afraid?  But of what?Geez, if you think we're all crazy, what chances do us single girls have at ever getting married? ...more

Broken Hearts: Why Emotional Trauma Causes Physical Pain

We’ve all felt the agony of a bad relationship. Someone doesn’t love us as much as we love them. They cheat or break up with us for no apparent reason. And we are left feeling heartbroken, scared and feeling like life will never be the same again. But something else happen, too. It’s a physical thing, a gnawing (and very real) feeling of being physically unwell. Constipation, insomnia, chest pain, headaches, body aches and stomach upset aren’t uncommon. We are also more prone to skin outbreaks, including hives....more

So...Do you still love them or what?!

Can people actually stay friends with their exes? Now, I mean really friends - Not friends with benefits, not staying together for the kids - I mean actual friends. Before you say "yes" (because that's the best "FU society!" answer that makes us all seem way cooler and way better adjusted then we are). Think about your exes.... ...more

Even A Heart Needs Defragging

Heartbreak and emotional turmoil can leave one emotionally splintered. Don't you just wish we could defrag the human heart as easily as we do a hard drive? ...more
@avflox thank you, much appreciated! Very inspiring blog post.more

Extreme Temperatures Change the Properties of Things: I Am Changed Because of Him

JULIET: Dost thou love me? I know thou wilt say "Ay," and I will take thy word: yet if thou swear'st, thou mayst prove false; at lovers' perjuries then say, Jove laughs. O gentle Romeo, if thou dost love, pronounce it faithfully: or if thou think'st I am too quickly won, I'll frown and be perverse an say thee nay, so thou wilt woo; but else, not for the world. ...more

The love that unlocks our experience of the Divine...  Although we may then lose the key ...more