I know that every marriage is different. I listen to girl talk. I hear from friends who let their husbands handle all the finances, and those that act as the family accountant. I hear from moms who think their husbands don't spend enough time with the kids and those that are happy with their amount of free time away from the family. I hear from women who joke about murdering their spouses several times a week and those that are careful to never say anything negative about their other half....more
I’ve never heard someone refer to their break up as a "fun conversation". In fact, I’m pretty sure we can all agree that even in the worst relationships it can be hard ending things with someone.No matter how you do it, it will be awkward and probably emotional. But just because you want to end a relationship, it doesn’t make you the “bad guy/girl”. It’s how you handle it that really matters....more
To say that I’ve had a bad run with dating recently would be the understatement of the century. I can barely take myself seriously anymore when asked about my love life, and I’m starting to wonder if my friends can either.For example, there I was, perched on a barstool at my favorite local haunt, when one of my best friends inquired about the “boy du jour.” Yep, she asked it just like that – which stung – a lot....more
We’ve all dated that guy. We thought he was the one, only to have him disappoint and hurt us. He did something horrible. He broke our heart, and we can’t seem to trust anyone else and move on. You’ve gone to therapy, spoke to your friends about it for hours, and yet you still can’t seem to get over it....more
It's over. But before you can heal, you need to make some promises to yourself. Raise your hand and repeat after me: I do hereby solemnly swear that I will not behave in the manner of a crazy ex-girlfriend. I will not participate in foolish or destructive behavior. I promise to act in a dignified fashion and that means I will not do stupid things, no matter how I might rationalize them. Therefore, I vow the following...
Suddenly I’ve become a part of your past. I’m becoming the part that don’t last. I’m losing you, and it’s effortless. - The Fray I’ve always been bad at goodbyes. I was known for slipping out of parties unannounced, after pretending I was going to the bathroom. I’d text once I got home with an excuse for my rudeness. “Catch you next time!” ...more
I have never understood or have been good at the dating game. Playing the game or going through the numbers, or the numbers game or whatever, has never been my thing. Perhaps it’s because I never really dated much. I don’t know. I am tired of trying to figure it out. In this last situation, my mom told me that I shouldn’t have got my heart involved so soon. Wise advice from a woman made of teflon. But I am not designed like that. I don’t know how not to involve my heart. I’m an expressive individual....more
I met Dizzy in the fall of 1966, my senior year of college, nine months after my starter marriage ended. Most evenings I found him at the pinball machine in the deli across from my apartment. If I dallied beside him, looking on, every so often he would reward me with a turn at the flippers....more