You Can't Sit With Us: Mean Girls in the Workplace

I had my fair share of "mobbing" or "bullying" within the workplace. As a young, talented, positive, gifted, passionate, competent and high achiever African American woman. I have been the target of mobbing/bullying in the workplace. Being a target of mobbing/bullying in the workplace does impact your life in a negative way because you are committed and hired to perform your job duties and responsibilities and you receive emotional abuse in return....more

Don't Let Your Ex Steam Roll You

We hear about bullies on the playground.  We worry our child will get bullied at school or even worse, we worry our child will be the bully. But bullying is something that goes on throughout our lives. It doesn’t end on the playground.  We can experience it in the workplace, in a relationship, in a friendship and most likely in a divorce.  Yes, there are such things as divorce bullies....more

The Huge Lesson I Learned After Being Bullied in School

I went through an awkward stage. I think it’s safe to say that we have all spent at least one year of our lives as a gawky version of current selves. My moment came in the heart of fifth grade. I grew much more quickly than my other female classmates, and boy was I reminded of it. ...more

Cyber Bullying

This morning at around 2am I got a text from a friend.  Not a close friend, someone I met at work and got to know briefly, but enough to where we found we enjoyed each other’s company.  The text said “You seem to have a lot of wisdom…how do I get people to stop cyber and real life bullying me?”...more

Writer Bullying?

There is a fine line between constructive feedback and fiction workshopping, if not workshredding– and outright imagination abuse. Yes. There is emotional abuse, physical mental abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, psychological abuse, social abuse, spiritual abuse and even imagination abuse. No one talks about it. It is wrong, a form of artist exploitation perpetuated by romantic notions of the “tortured” artist “suffering” for art. Writing is joy, not pain....more

More research that bullying and childhood abuse changes the brain

A psychologist at the University of Ottawa was frustrted that the media, policy makers and the public seemed to only pay attention to research on bullying if she could show that it created biological damage (vs. "just" psychological/emotion I suppose).She did a study in 2008 that showed that while boys who were bullied had higher levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) compared to boys who weren't bullied, girls had much lower levels of cortisol compared to girls who weren't bullied....more

Bullying is Every Parent's Problem!

 Judy feels pretty good about herself this morning, as she twirls in front of her bedroom mirror.  It’s picture day so she got up early and fixed her hair, and even snuck a little bit of her mom’s mascara!  The new dress her mom bought for her to wear in her pictures flutters around her legs when she spins, and even though she’s not a little kid anymore–she’s almost a teenager!–she still likes to twirl in front of the mirror as long as no one is watching. As she rushes down the driveway to catch the bus she is all smiles! ...more

My Kid is Being Bullied & I’m the One Who Wants to Fight

My son is 6 and he is being bullied in first grade. Actually it started in Kindergarten with the same kid, but the school did little to help. We tried everything to get the school to step in and stop it, but it was close to the end of the school year. I know they were hoping to ride it out till the end of the year so they didn’t have to deal with it....more

When special needs kids are bullied

I've got two articles to share on this topic. The first is a new study that indicates that kids between 8 and 10 who are bullied are more likely to experience nightmares, night terrors and sleepwalking at age 12. other piece is "Why bullies target struggling students (and how you can help!)"