A Thank You Note To My Bullies

You know, I've been rude.And it's time I apologize.  I'm sorry.I never thanked all the bullies at my high school for the wisdom they unknowingly passed on to me through their years of emotional and physical abuse.  I never expressed gratitude for the lessons I was lucky enough to learn early on in life.So, if you were one of the people who hurt me because you were probably so cruelly abused and hurt yourself, and you've been waiting for a nod of recognition, here goes....more

Why I'm Going Purple Against LGBT Bullying

I read an article the other day about how a high-school student, near the end of his rope, went to talk to his school counselor.  He felt safe because he saw a rainbow flag on her door.Today he is the president of the student government at a major university.  Based on that article, you might say he is thriving....more

Invited YA Author Shut Out from Anti-Bullying Event

If your 12- or 13-year-old child or grandchild were being bullied, would you want her to hear a YA author–one who had herself been bullied–speak about hope and survival? Even if she wrote a novel about bullying that had the word “ass” in the title?...more

Who do you think the real Miss America is?

As I sit here eating one of my favorite quick lunch recipes from Pioneer Woman (modified to be vegetarian) and checking my computer while Nandini naps I am struck by how I am living in a world that is not made for me.  I was ecstatic to find out that an Indian woman was crowned Miss America last night.  I thought she looked gorgeous and I was so happy to see her bringing out her culture for the talent portion with a Bollywood dance routine. ...more
That was definitely worth a read. Thank you for sharing your story!more

Monday, Monday

Monday, Monday..... Ahh Monday......................... (Cue music from the mamas and the papas) ...more

Teen Angst

To the teenaged boy with the scooter who called me ugly this afternoon while I was waiting for my Chinese food to be ready: I don't care that you called me ugly. You did not hurt my feelings, if that was what you were going for. I am not ugly. I know that I am not ugly because I have fairly good self esteem, and with the exception of the occasional midmonth bloatfest I like what I see when I look in the mirror. I also have a husband who seems to like what he sees and a five year old who happens to think I am the bees knees....more

How My Tween Braved Bullying And Conquered Her Anxiety

 In all the parenting books I read before my first daughter Olivia was born, none of them included this disclaimer that could have saved me from hours of heartbreak and self criticism. A desperately needed disclaimer, that should have read “ Moms! Even if you do everything this book says , it is your child’s true temperament that will determine how they interact with their world,...so sit back and enjoy the wild ride.”  Olivia was twenty months old, when her little sister Zoe was born....more

Rumination’s on Being a Second Grader

I remember second grade so very well. It was the year things changed for me. Until that year I’d been “normal.” A little odd and silly, perhaps, but a girl with a lot of friends and a happy little life. I was a lot like my little Lulu is now, sunny and funny and sweet. But in second grade my parents decided to move me to a private religious school in order for my brother, who had some learning issues, to get more attention than they thought he’d get at a public school....more

From Mean Girls to Mean Mommies - Bullying is not "Fetch"

Bullying and Cyberbullying are words that strike fear in the hearts of parents--bullying most parents are familiar with but cyberbullying may be harder to get a handle on in an age of ever expanding technological innovations.  Bullying, yeah, there's an app for that....more

A Letter to My Sons' Neurotypical Friends

I hope you know how much your friendships mean to Sam and Noah. Even though they can't express their gratitude in words, their devotion to you is evident in their actions. I watch them scan the lunchroom and playground for you. When you play together, their personalities truly shine and I get a better look at who they are and who they will be as they grow up. Fact is, you have no idea how much they will need your friendship in the coming years. Right now being friends is easy....more
This is such a sweet letter. It is great. I know the boys' friends will appreciate this.more