There's a saying that I've heard from other friends who have children that goes, "Be nice to your children because they choose your future nursing home". While I've tended to laugh when I hear that phrase, it's not a laughing matter in China.
A law is set to be passed in China starting July 1st that entitles any parent to sue their child if they feel the've been neglected. Strange as it may sound to most people, this law has merit due to the overwhelming aging population that is predicted to explode by 2053.
It was a lovely Saturday afternoon. I had just finished 3 loads of laundry, done some grocery shopping, put dinner in the crock pot and worked on a lecture. With the mantra to Put my Own Oxygen Mask on First repeating in my head, I got into my workout clothes and headed to the Y for a work out. My husband had our dog, Cookie with him at the nursing home visiting his Dad....more
I looked out the window and smiled as I watched Felix, my 94 year old Father-in-law sitting in our front yard, head stretched back to bask in the sun. His right hand was busy petting our dog Cookie's soft ears. He was smiling too and seemed to be soaking in the warmth of the sun. I brought him out a glass of water and he sighed, "Do you have any idea how long it's been since I sat in the sun?" he asked....more
Survey after survey finds that when a family member needs care and their adult children take on the role, they're often woefully unprepared. Why is there so much surprise? The fact is that most people who are providing some or all of their parent's care are not trained nurses.
It's unrealistic to expect someone who's never cared for an elderly person or one with dementia to become a competent, nurturing caregiver with unlimited patience who knows about nutrition, medications, bathing, treatments, sleeping and every other aspect of daily life, not to mention all of the financial issues, appointments and housing issues....more
We are once again in a state of craziness. A couple of weeks ago, my mom fell right after I dropped her off at church and she had to go to the emergency room. There were no broken bones, but she was, of course, sore and bruised and shaken up. At her age, one of the greatest fears is falling and just the fact that it happened was enough to undermine what little confidence she had. Her regular internist was out of town the week after the fall, so she and I both wanted to wait until the doctor was back to follow up....more
What are most Americans most afraid of when it comes to their health? As you might have guessed, it's Alzheimers. As more and more people know someone with Alzheimers or families affected by it, more baby boomers are getting worried. And yet, very few are making plans to deal with their own possible memory loss....more
Tom McCarthy (The Station Agent, The Visitor) has once again written and directed a picture that’s been touted at the festivals; however, his newest film has enough mainstream appeal to be backed by Fox Searchlight Pictures. ...more