This Intolerable Situation, Concluded

So what she said was, “There’s no way you’re going to be able to do this.” She stared at me, with a kind of Am I being punk’d? half-smile on her face, like she just couldn’t believe how naïve I was. ...more

This Intolerable Situation, Continued Yet Again

It’s a well-worn joke between Gary and me that after about two years of seeing me, a therapist will develop a burning desire to change careers. ...more

This Intolerable Situation, Continued

  So to be honest, I wasn’t that upset when Maw and Paw locked themselves inside the car. I actually thought it was kind of funny, with that “intolerable situation” line still running through my head, and Paw peering out the window at me with his expressionless face and bird-blue eyes. ...more

This Intolerable Situation

                  So for the longest time, it’s been true that the more lucid Paw is, the more upset he is about what is happening to him. I guess it’s the one saving grace of his dementia. Mercifully, as his fugue deepens, his episodes of extreme agitation and anguish have become few and far between. ...more

Reader, I'd Like You to Meet Headache

So why do I capitalize Headache and refer to it as though it were a person? Well, Headache, you see, is not ordinary pain in the neck. ...more

A Better Video

            So at the Alzheimer’s Association website,, there’s a handy table comparing normal age-related changes to those indicative of Alzheimer’s disease. ...more

The Symbolism of the Laundry

I just did a load of laundry. One bath towel. One blouse. Three tee shirts. One tee shirt-pajama top. Three pairs of undies. One bra. One pair of jeans. One cloth napkin. Two kitchen towels. A white wash is in the machine. I think there are four white shirts in that load. The laundry is hanging to dry on a portable air dryer on the terrace. ...more

Now I Know

So after four months of fits and starts, I’ve decided that I’m going to do this thing, this blog. I’ve got a few entries started and a few more mapped out. I’ve made some choices about what I’m going to write about, and how. I’ve given myself until Friday to think of a title. I’ve read a book about blogging – okay, I’ve scanned the first three chapters of a book about blogging. The only thing left to do, really, is figure out where to begin. And now I’m stuck. ...more

Long-Term Care, the Elephant in the Room

by Teresa Heinz Kerry and Jeffrey Lewis ...more

We're a family taking care of an elderly parent and that's exactly how we feel in the morning ...more

Never Say Never

Do you remeber Fievel from An American Tail? That was a cute cartoon. And in the movie, there was this song, "Never Say Never". I should have remembered that. Before David and I were married I told him, "I don't take out the trash. I don't mow the lawn. That's man's work." I grew up with three brothers. I've never even started a lawn mower. ...more