Rules of engagement

What makes a person care about another person? To become engaged with them? What a loaded verb the word engage is? To enter into conflct or battle; to offer; to bind; to deal with especially at length; to pledge oneself; to give attention to something; to come together and interlock; to attract or hold by influence or power;  to begin and carry on an enterprise or activity. There are a lot of emotions in that verb; negative and positive. There is a large amount of energy in that word. ENGAGE. Why do I talk about the word engage?...more

Caring for the Caregivers

I've been a caregiver since I was old enough to hold my baby sister. I was told that I would be just like my Aunt Rose - who was single and a nurse. My mother saw that loving, self-assured, bossy trait in me and expected me to help her out A LOT.  By the time I was a teenager I didn't want to be "little mommy me" so I flew the coop. Lets just say, I have never been very good at being told what to do.  I thought instead I wanted to be a psychologist. My parents didn't know what to do with that one....more

Pay It Forward Day!

  April 29, 2010 is "Pay It Forward Day" we all remember the sweet touching movie where the little boy did 3 good deeds for others in need. I think this is something that we should all be attempting to do as much as possible, and not need to be reminded of it each year. Don't get me wrong, I know plenty of you out there that are care givers and others who do good things all the time. For my caregivers friends, I think someone should pay it forward to you today to give you a break so you could take a day for yourself, you deserve it!...more

Haiti. I can't turn away.

I've been unable to write for the past few days. Everything I want to say about my life, my daily aggravations, how I'm trying to stretch and grow, who I am... It all feels frivolous and incredibly self-absorbed. Wherever I turn, the news of the catastrophic earthquake in Haiti calls out. And, what it says is this... You are blessed. You are incredibly blessed with your life, and what you have. What are you going to do with it? ...more

Hope with More: ‘In Their Own (Ovarian Cancer) Words’©

 September 16th, 2009       Author:  Sandi Pniauskas ...more

I'm A Mean Mom!!

I'm a "mean" mom. Yep. I am. And, guess what? That's okay with me! And, actually, even my children are glad I'm mean! Ask them - they'll tell you. But, they won't use the word "mean". They will say strict. ...more

The Greatest Adventure

The greatest adventure of a blondes' life is yet to be told but I can tell you of its beginning. Once upon a time... There was a not so young blonde with more accumulated wisdom, in the art of dating, than any one girl truly needed. She knew every story, every line, every ill fated sign of a doomed relationship. ...more

The Comfort of Friends

"Job Comforter" is typically used to describe friends people that are anything BUT comforters!!   The phrase is derived from the rants, raves and personal attacks on Job from his three friends and dominates much of the Book of Job.  These type of  "comforters" are known to offer pat answers to difficult questions, find fault(s) in the very one who is despairing, and frequently blame shift the difficulties onto the hurting one, or at best (worst), God.   But there's a requisite quality of those original friends that has diminished in our fast ...more

Love & Compassion

There are many moments as a parent, that I feel unsure, inadequate, out of place and like I might be making mistakes. If I were to dwell on every moment in the past that I felt like I had done something wrong, I’d be totally consumed, and unable to move forward and learn from the mistakes. Realizing this has probably been one of the most therapeutic and useful tools for me as a parent. I commit my entire life and being to my children. They suck the life out of me. ...more

What a beautiful post - thanks for sharing.


When You Care...Enough

When You Care Enough It has come to my attention that I care too much. This is good news and bad news. The good news is that I have a heart, and I really care about people, especially my family. The bad news is that I struggle with worry and fretting over them, and I care too much, plain and simple. ...more