The things that matter....

When there is abuse in your past, be it physical, emotional, sexual, or all of the above you loose the ability to connect. I have recently heard that CONNECTION is the ability to FEEL. Abuse causes disconnection in the way of Shane and fear (Brene Brown), it will implant the believe that we are not worthy of love, self love, or the love of others. You learn not to trust, so you put up walls to keep you safe without realizing that those walls keep you from connecting....more
I am not sure why I started this blog. One of my sisters thought it would be a good idea, and so ...more

He Asked Me If I'd Read Lolita...And Then He Kissed Me

 Every day seemingly brings fresh allegations. The cases of reported abuse in the Jimmy Savile case is said to have reached 450 victims to date and continues to rise. If ever we needed evidence that abuse can happen at every, and any level, we only have to open up our daily newspaper.I have never needed reminding. Fifteen years ago, when I was 15 years old, I was groomed, and eventually sexually abused by one of my secondary school teachers, over a three month period....more

People Can't Always Handle the Truth...So I Kept Quiet

In my last post, I started to tell the story of how, as a 15-year-old, I was sexually abused by a teacher from my secondary school. In this next post, I pick up where I left off – May 1997, and Mr D had made his first move, kissing me after a staff cricket match.Around the end of June, my year were due to undertake their work experience placements....more

#274 Present, Day 12 of 31

Third of the way through......more

An Alien World Called Normal


Be Not the Passenger

Be Not the Passenger ...more

Treating Parenthood as a Privilege

What kind of story do we see in the news just about every day? Incidents of child abuse. When it comes to child abuse, the statistics in the United States are unnerving. According to the Department of Health and Human Services, in the United States a child is abused or neglected every 36 seconds....more

Wee lambies need love

Riding the train home from work, in my typical ‘don’t bother me I am asleep’ non sleeping pose, I heard a new born cough. It was one of those wet phlegmy coughs. Through half opened eyes I noticed a young mother across from me. Ever the people watcher I was on full alert. The mother was about sixteen, the baby was too young to be in such a public place being that ill....more

Words Of Another 'Throw-Away Child'... My Brother

  Words From Another 'Throw-Away Child'... My BrotherBy Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny GeeBeing a throw away child, Iremember a long period of time when I walked alone, I had no one I could trustor count on, what mattered to me meant nothing to anyone, I was the only onethat saw the things that I saw. I saw my aunt drive a man to suicide, and bitchbecause he did it, I saw my cousin dance naked before his sister and her younger...more

Father's Day and Jerry Sandusky

Father's Day is not a fun one for me.  As some of you know, my father is a child molester and I was one of his victims.  I know I am not alone in experiencing mixed emotions during Father's Day and some have different reasons than my own.  However, there are some great dads out there and they deserve to be honored.  If you are one of those dads, and you know who are even if you did not receive a new drill or tie, Happy Father's Day.  Keep up the good work.  Your kids need you....more
 @Isabel_Anders Thank you for this. I agree and appreciate your voice.more