Come As You Are

It’s come as you are when visiting my blog, CiCi’s Garden –otherwise what would be the point? To be welcome, guests need not sanitize or in any way alter how they express their reality. The Garden is a place where frank conversation is embraced, emotions respected and affirmed while at the same time encouragement is offered to those who long to know that wounded hearts can heal –even if it takes a lifetime. However, no judgments are made one way or another. My own mother died without ever finding peace, and that’s reality, too....more

An Old Violin

My husband holds many cherished memories from his preteens through his college years and beyond of accompanying his father on the piano while his father played the violin, one he had played as a boy growing up in Karlsbad, the most famous spa town in what was then Czechoslovakia....more

Letting Go

Our dreams, hopes and desires, careers, possessions, family, friends, loved ones, pets   how do we let go of such fundamental components of our life when circumstances demand it?...more

Drawing the Line

For me, there’s a difference between maintaining my personal boundaries and drawing the line. My personal boundaries signal self-validation and affirmation while drawing the line can be motivated by changeable circumstances and variables. My personal boundaries are non-negotiable, but I may choose not to use indelible ink when I feel compelled to draw the line....more

Happy Birthday Switzerland!

The year I was nine my family traveled to Switzerland, my father’s homeland, where we lived for six months with my aunt Liseli in the lovely hamlet of Brienz. ...more

Sublime Compliment

As she spoke to me her words came to my ears as familiar, the very thoughts and expressions I had shared with her recently during a time she was hurt, bewildered and panicking. She spoke with certainty and conviction, her voice steady and full of strength. It was a sublime compliment that she did not remember that I was the one who had first proposed those very concepts and phrases. She was imparting her own wisdom, internalized and imbedded in her soul....more


I’ve understood for a long time that not everything I see or hear is real. Not long ago I was reminded of this in a most unusual fashion. While peering through a window of a local art gallery late one afternoon, I noticed a striking figure seated in the driver’s seat of a car parked on the street behind me. Quickly turning around to get a better look at her, I found the car empty. Amazingly, bright sunlight reflecting the empty car in the window caused me to see both the bronze statue inside the gallery and the car simultaneously, thus placing her inside the car....more

Puzzle Piece Friendships

All of us were grappling with life issues –work, environments, relationships of one sort or another. Each of us had reached a crossroad in which we would choose new directions, discover fresh options and once again reinvent ourselves. Our spontaneity, originality and willingness to explore possibilities were anchored securely by our individual strengths, insights, values and commitment to our families and local community....more

4th of July Pursuits

There is a tree in our town that for several years has been anonymously decorated to commemorate various occasions –this time the 4th of July. ...more

Death of a Baby

Most of us have seen depictions of Lady Justice, a female figure holding a sword in one hand and the scales of justice in the other. Portraying Justice as a female figure dates back to ancient Greek and Roman images. In Roman mythology, Justicia (Justice) was one of the four Virtues along with Prudence, Fortitude and Temperance. Themis, who was known for her clear-sightedness, was the Greek Goddess of Justice and Law. The scales represent impartiality and the sword symbolizes power....more