Zayne dropping by

IT'S been over a month that I've last posted something about my five-year-old ward/friend Zayne Mojica and for followers of my Nanny Stories blog, I duly apologize because of the many personal events that I've had to deal with....more

Why "Lean In, Grandma" Is Not the Answer to Our Child Care Problem

Two articles appeared within a single news cycle about women in the work force and child care, from two totally different vantage points. The titles are revealing -- in the New York Times, Crushed by the Cost of Child Care, from the Washington Post, Lean In, and Lean On Grandma. Clearly, looking after the very young is a major problem for American families. If parents do it, their ability to earn an income is hit hard and may never recover, even if and when they do go back to paid work. If they pay someone else to do it, a different kind of cost is incurred. Child care is hugely expensive, the quality of care varies greatly, and work hours often don't align with the hours care is available. Not surprisingly, a mother alone cannot solve the dilemma, and she is the most likely parent to be on the front lines. ...more
My own mom and dad are taking turns watching my kids while I'm traveling this week, so I think ...more

Pre-K As Policy, Not Politics

My favorite part of the President's State of the Union address was his plan for expanding pre-kindergarten to all four-year-olds. The idea has been around for decades, and it did once very nearly become law until it was vetoed by President Nixon. But in the past 40 years, two big parts of the early education picture have shifted dramatically. The first is that we know for a fact that quality preschool will positively affect the child's life through adulthood. The second is that preschool is no longer used as a weapon to make mothers feel guilty....more

Do Working Parents Deserve First Choice on Shifts?

Working parents have a lot to juggle. So does everyone else. The question at hand is: Do working parents deserve to have first choice and priority in choosing work shifts and receiving work flexibility? According to a Canadian Court, employers are obliged to accommodate employee's child-care requests and needs. The Globe and Mail reports: ...more
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Child Care Problems

So, I am faced with the possibility of finding another job.  My current place of employment keeps jerking everyone around, taking away vacation, laying people off, making the ones that are left take call, the usual bull crap when they want to lessen the load of employees.  I really dread this because I know that my three 12 hour shifts will be a thing of the past.  I might even have to work second or third shift.  I was able to do this before my daughter was born but now I really just want to stay home with her!  I know that’s not very modern or career minded but I ...more
Just read your post after being gone from Blogher for a long time!  I was an in-home, licensed ...more

JURY DUTY: ARE THE COURTS INSENTIVE TO STAY AT HOME MOMS?

A few weeks ago, I received notice that I was “On call” to serve as a juror in the United States District Court of the Northern District of Georgia.  The notice explained that for a 2 week period I could possibly be called in to serve.  It further requires the juror to call in every day during the 2 week period to see if your will have to report.   I called in and I was instructed to report on the first day.  As a lawyer, I am more than familiar with the process.  I have tried jury trials and I have been called to serve as a juror. ...more

The Kids Are (Not) All Right

The first debate in this presidential campaign season is remarkable not for what the candidates said, but for what they didn't say. In spite of the fact that the Presidency cannot be won without a majority of women's votes, discussion of the economy and health care was narrow and bogged down in mindless detail. Worse, Governor Romney and President Obama seem to think that anyone can show up for a job at any time, regardless of what may be going on at home. It's astounding that our candidates can be so focused on jobs and the economy and not explicitly address childcare....more

You're Not My Mother

No, I’m not.You’re not my mother.  SO STOP PRETENDING!I’m not pretending.Don’t hug me.  Don’t smile at me.  I want my mother, and you’re NOT HER.Okay.  I won’t hug you.  I’ll try hard not to smile.  I know how much you want your mother, sweetheart.  She’ll be here as soon as she can.Soon is a long time.It can be.  She would be with you every minute if she could....more

Marketing FAIL

I, like nearly every blogger who has been around for awhile, get a great many PR pitches in my inbox.99.999% of them go straight into my trash I am not interested in promoting anything for a company, nor do I care to tweet or otherwise pimp their product. One I got on Friday caught my eye. And not in a good Way. It was "Moms Against Cooties" - which is just a terrible name. It was this sentence that set my chaps on fire, however:...more

Kids With Special Needs and the Child Care Minefield

Did you know that all U.S. child care centers and home daycares have to comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), no matter how small the operation is? Yet parents of kids with special needs are routinely turned away from daycare, or forced to lodge legal complaints against child care providers who do not provide the accommodation their kids are legally entitled to. I recently spoke with Jana Burke, Project Director of the Rocky Mountain Disability & Business Technical Assistance Center (DBTAC) ADA Center, about the rights and issues surrounding kids with special needs and day care....more

As the mom of three kids with a rare disorder, autism, and epilepsy, I went through the process ...more