An Open letter to my 4 year old self #Rapecultureiswhen

Too many children have been or are in  the position of being molested in our country. It is a sad state of affairs, yes a lot of it has to do with the way our society perceives women and how we perceive ourselves. As a little girl that has been in this situation, none of that matters at the time, but it needs to change. What matters is that we build our little girls up. So not to fear opening up about it, to not fear saying NO! ...more

Yes, I am angry

My PTSD is aflame.However, a large part of me doesn’t want to talk about why it is aflame for the same reasons this survivor gives, “because it makes everyone else so visibly uncomfortable”. Once people know you have survived sex abuse as a child, particularly by a family member, they sometimes redefine you as just that. I don’t like that. It gives my molester even MORE influence over the way I live....more
LunaFCS I am so sorry for your pain. I wish there was something I could do to make this not ... ...more

Rape Culture is: Honoring a Child Molester

You know, I used to think the fact our society trivializes sexual assault by acting as if sex offenders are not really such bad guys was one of the most blatant signs of being a rape culture. It disgusted me that people were welcoming Mike Tyson back into the fold regardless of the fact he raped an 18 year old woman. ...more

Loving a Predator: What It’s Like to Have a Child Molester In Your Family

I’m not going to name any names. I won’t even get specific enough in this post that those who know me will know automatically about whom I speak. The reality is, those closest to me already know. This isn’t an attempt to “out” anyone as this person has already been outed several years ago....more

They're Coming to Take Me Away, Ha-Haaa

Remember when you ran away and I got on my knees and begged you not to leave because I'd go berserk?? Well... You left me anyhow and then the days got worse and worse and now you see I've gone completely out of my mind.. And.. They're coming to take me away, ha-haaa!! They're coming to take me away, ho-ho, hee-hee, ha-haaa To the funny farm. Where life is beautiful all the time and I'll be happy to see those nice young men in their clean white coats and they're coming to take me away, ha-haaa!!!!! You thought it was a joke and so you laughed, you laughed when I had said ...more

Reaction to Media Coverage of Jerry Sandusky the Child Molester

I'm kind of ashamed of the way we, as a society, are responding to this Penn State tragedy. I'm not talking on an individual level although I have to say I've seen some surprising individual comments about it on Facebook. However, most people aren't mentioning it at all and if you didn't have cable you might not even know that this happened. ...more

My Stepfather Molested My Daughter

I continue to be asked over & over again "WHY DID YOU START YOUR WEBSITE?" I want everyone who reads this to know EXACTLY "why" ........more

Shaniya Davis, Dead at 5, a Story Nearly as Ugly as the Movie Precious

CNN and bloggers report that the body of 5-year-old Shaniya Davis of Fayetteville, NC, has been found. Earlier today 200 people searched for the child's body after police received a tip that she was dead, say news sources. ...more
Everything has to be race related these days... Why is that? This poor, defenseless, beautiful ...more

Icons Away

Um, so duh, we lost two incredible people yesterday.  I don’t mean to belittle these losses, but I wanted to put my Questionably Fabulous spin on it all, per a request I got from a reader.  Um, side note, did you just read that?  I have readers!  So surreal for me.  This is freaking happening.  Ok, I’ll stop being so questionably fabulous and get back on track… ...more