Having a Child: Thumbs up...or Thumbs Down?

To have -- or not to have children -- that is the question.by sybil sage...more

To the Childless... but not childless by choice.

I’m sorry.  Not for anything I’ve done (I hope!), but in general.I’m sorry for the stupid advice you hear (“Just take a vacation and you’ll get pregnant! ‘Just’ adopt! Have you tried ___?”)  As if you haven’t read every word, tried ever surefire method, eaten every bizarre magical food....more

I Love Kids, I Just Don't Need to Own One

"I love children. I just don't need to own one".  This is one of my favorite quotes from this week’s Time Magazine (August 12 issue)  excellent article by Lauren Sandler on the rise in women choosing not to have children.  The article cites a 2010 Pew Research report that showed that childlessness has risen across all racial and ethnic groups, adding up to about 1 in 5 American women who end their childbearing years maternity-free, compared with 1 in 10 in the 1970s. ...more
Hi Eleanore, I agree that people always believe that something is wrong if a woman decides not ...more

An Open Letter to DINKs Everywhere

Dear DINKs,Thank you.Thank you for uploading your gloriously childfree vacation pictures to Facebook. When you do this, I can "vacation" myself after my lovely little noisemakers have gone to bed. Fiji, Costa Rica, Miami, you go. You go to those places. You do it....more

Yes, Frank Bruni of the NYT, Parenting Is Confusing

These days, I don't usually even pay attention to the "baffled hymns" of those who don't have children. They're all basically trying to tell parents what they're doing wrong (not the childless, the "hymns" in question), they're all condescending as hell, and they're all totally off-base. But this. This is the New York Times. I mean, really? Really?...more
@eln5001 No, I mean, I can only speak for me, but that's awesome!more

Single and Childless in the South

The great majority of the time, I love living in the south. The people are friendlier, life goes by at a slower pace, cost of living can’t be beat, and my family has been here since the 1700′s – the south is part of me....more
Great post! And I'll jump on the band wagon here and say you are definitely not alone! I'm 45 ...more


I look in the mirror  and examine what’s reflected. I am going through that “mid-life crisis” time, a “re-evaluation” time. We start out as adults in the big world with our core values. We have the hard lines we think that we won’t let anyone cross. We type in BOLD on our hearts the things that matter the most and the deal-breakers....more
Because you loved him more than you loved yourself. I guess the tough question you need to ...more

BlogHer '12: What Childless Women Want Brands to Know

My panel at BlogHer '12 went very well and as it should be, there were lessons for the audience and panel, too. The session was sweetly named,Table for One, and it focused on the challenges of women bloggers without children to attract brand attention and strategies to turn things around....more
I also feel a little upset when the ads that are directed at women without kids it's dating ads. ...more

My Blog Changed My Life, And It's Only One Year Old.

June is the essence of commencement, beginnings and fresh starts. Brand new sunny days. Brides and grooms. Graduates. I can’t remember how it came to be that I launched this site last year in June, but that simple action was definitely a commencement....more

Who’s Got it Easier: Childfree Men or Women?

I realized a little something last week – namely, that I had written a post about stay-at-home-moms and work-from-home-moms, but two of my first commenters were a childfree MAN and a work-from-home DAD. We hear a lot about Childfree women feeling marginalized by society, but jeez, what about the Childfree men? Even I’M marginalizing them....more