Childfree: When Those You Don't Know (or Don't Know Well) Ask You, "Why Don't You Want Kids?"

The childfree encounter a number of different kinds of challenges, from loves ones who don't understand their choice, to getting pressure to change their minds and more. One of the challenges the childfree talk about is how not to get defensive when asked by people they don't know (or don't know well) why they don't want kids. I have three of my favorite strategies for dealing with this kind of situation....more
I have two responses: one more lighthearted, the other a little harsher.  Lighthearted:  "Kids ...more

Making the decision to NOT become a parent

When I was young, I just assumed that I would grow up, meet someone special, fall in love, get married, and have children - in that order. Truthfully, though, I never actually gave much thought as to my desire or ability to carry out any of these roles - my expectations were based solely on the premise that that's what people do. ...more

Up Close & Personal With Childfree Me

As the author of Families of Two, (and next book to come out very soon!) I have been interviewed for lots of articles over the years, but not like with "Fab Over 50" -- they wanted to talk with me up close and personal about my life and childfree choice.  Here's some background and perspective fr...more

Were the Childfree Bad Babysitters?

Running across a post by Sue Fagalde Lick on a babysitting jello fiasco brought back memories of my own babysitting days. I have some babysitting stories to tell as well. Babysitting was the first "job" I had and did it as a teen....more

Rethinking What It Means to be Childless & Childless by Circumstance

Reading "The Grief of Childlessness" by Samantha Schoech got me thinking about how we've come to commonly define "childless "and "childless by circumstance."  Who are the childless?...more

What the Childfree and Single-Child Parents Share

A mother of an only child recently wrote me about the top five "bingos" she has received as a "Done at One," or DAO.  They are more related to what's behind a lot of bingos the childfree get than you might think. Here they are:Top 5 Bingos to the DAO1. You only had ONE child? Why didn't you want more?...more
Love this article.  I have an Only.  This article and the comments have enlightened me and ...more

Giving Thanks for the Childfree Life

There is a lot of talk about the challenges of being childfree, but at this time of year, let's talk about what is great about having chosen not to have children--if you have made this choice, what is on your list to be thankful for? I'll start....more
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Families of Two's Vicki & Nathan a Decade Later

I recently had the pleasure of reconnecting with a wonderful couple, Vicki Righettini and Nathan Meyers, who were interviewed in Families of Two.  They have been married 26 years now, and currently live in Boston....more

Why I Don't Want to be a Mother

 I had a semi-fight with my grandmother this afternoon about some petty things and that triggered my shallow-buried feelings about motherhood in general. These situations usually pull my anti-traditional family sentiments (you know, getting pissed off for some mundane domestic things)...more

Does Being an Aunt Beat Being a Mother?

My niece recently sent me a link to the New York article by single-no-kids Kate Bolick, "Let's Hear It For Aunthood." Bolick makes some interesting points, starting with-because nearly 1 in...more