First comes love, then comes moving in, then maybe marriage

Like many couples, my husband and I moved in together before getting married. And we actually lived together for more than a decade before saying our vows. We wanted to be sure about our choice to remain together. (Absolutely sure.) And to this day, I am glad that we put in all that time before we tied the knot. We know each other on every level and I believe that it made the "hard" years of marriage (the first year after saying "I do," and the first year of having a baby) a little easier on us....more

Moving in With Your Significant Other: What You Need to Know

Moving in with your significant other is a huge step. A massive step! But it’s also an exciting and awesome and fun step. Dave and I both knew very early in our relationship that this was it – we were going to be together forever. We weren’t ready to get married, but we knew we would get married someday....more

No Shoes Allowed

The no shoe thing started when I moved into my very first place entirely on my own and found myself surrounded by wall to wall light beige carpet....more

Conversations from Cohabitation

Last week we were standing on our balcony watching the sunset. The sky was a gorgeous pinkish purple and the sun was bright orange, far too bright to actually look at. CB: “Why are you turning the other way?”Me: “Because the sun is too bright, I can’t look directly at it.”CB: “But it’s a sunset. You’re supposed to, you know, watch the sun actually setting.”...more

Cohabitation is the New Normal

According to an article published by USA Today, unmarried couples who live together are staying together longer than in the past. In addition, more of them are having children, according to the first federal data recently released that details just how cohabitation is transforming families across the United States. The report from the National Center for Health Sciences states that for almost half of the woman ages 15-44, their first "union" was cohabitation rather than marriage. For less than one-quarter, the first union was marriage....more

Does marriage make people happier?

Or is it simply living together that does? Researchers have studied marriage versus single life for decades. But nobody has studied marriage versus cohabitation over the long term. That’s was the crux of this research to come out of the latest issue of the Journal of Marriage and Family courtesy of Cornell University’s College of Human Ecology. ...more

Letting go....eventually

There are days that go by and I feel so much love and contentment.  I don’t know why there has to be the days that bring nothing but confusion and discontent.  It has been 4 and a half months since I discovered by love’s “emotional affair” with his ex.  4 months of roller coaster ups and downs.  4 months of questioning whether he is telling me the truth or not.  4 months of wondering if he is still telling her he loves =her= and misses =her= and telling her things to make =her= think he is only staying in this relationship with me because he doesn’t want to hurt me ...more

Is Moving in Together a Good Idea?

It would be excellent if there was an equation, a check list, or some elaborate chart to complete on a spreadsheet in this post to help you determine whether it's a good idea to move in with someone. But there isn't. This is only a story about how I finally decided to take that step. ...more
Is living together an end in itself? Just asking because, if you have a different agenda than ...more

Merging families without marriage

Two weeks ago I wrote about moving in with my boyfriend, Mr....more