The Waiting: For Parents of College Applicants, Who Not to Talk to Until April 1st

Once college applications are completed, high school seniors enter a lull period, an interminable limbo, worsened by the pressure to keep their grades up.If you’re the parent of a senior, you can feel productive during this stage by selling your embarrassing large library of SAT prep books on e-Bay and ordering Twin XLsheets on sale.And, to maintain your sanity, here is a list of people NOT to talk to until after April 1st:...more

Soccer and My Daughter’s Concussion: What’s A Good Mother to Do?

At first, I didn’t even realize it had happened. My sixteen-year-old daughter was playing goalie for her premier soccer team at a college scouting tournament during Thanksgiving break this past November. As a player from the other team charged the goal, by daughter went in for the save. They both missed the ball and hit each other head-on. The other player fell down and then got up and brushed herself off. My daughter stumbled but didn’t fall. She then managed to capture the ball and save the goal....more
Oh my. I can only imagine what this is like for you. My husband got a head injury while ...more

A College Timeline for Neurotic Parents to Guarantee Acceptance

April is prime time for college neurosis. Seniors try to get off wait-lists while juniors are preparing to receive scores for the ACTs they bombed. But if your child is under ten, or better yet, still in utero, you can alleviate a lot of stress by adhering to this handy timeline: ONE MONTH BEFORE BIRTH -- Travel to Dhaka, so your baby will qualify for Bangladeshi citizenship....more
@nanettefondas What did you think?more

Calculator shopping, the night before the SAT

I'm the guest poster on the college blog of the Washington Post today....more

Neurotic Parent Pre-Order Day

Today, February 7th is Amazon Pre-order day for my book about the insanity of the college admissions process - The Amazon computers will notice and create a buzz if they receive lots of pre-orders at once. ...more

The Vassar 76: On Rejection and Other Life Lessons

That kind of switch and bait probably didn’t occur to most of the 76 students who were recently accepted and then summarily rejected by Vassar College. A computer glitch, just the kind my own son worried about, sent 122 early decision candidates letters of acceptance. For 46 of them, the news was accurate; they had been accepted. For the remaining students, the computer system, in fact the entire system, had failed....more
Yup, Dawn, can't argue with you. I'm hoping to be able to send my daughters to college ...more

Summer Internships and the Price of Privilege

When Benjamin Franklin said, “An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest,” I am pretty sure he didn’t mean forking over thousands of dollars so your kid could participate in a fancy (unpaid) internship. But that is exactly what parents of privilege are doing this summer.“What?” you ask. “Parents are paying to have their children work at a company?” Oh, yes they are and it’s not just because the Great Recession continues unabated....more
Hi and i, Thanks for your observations. As someone who spent many hours in boring retail and ...more

Checking the Race Box: Should College Applicants Play All of Their Race Cards?

College applications give students plenty to fret about. The applications’ race and ethnicity questions should be one of the easy sections, just boxes to check. But evidently, they are not. And even though this short portion of all college applications is optional, it is causing applicants, especially multi-racial students, angst and agonizing indecision....more

That's just it, Grace. The increase in multi-racial applicants and the way new generations are ...more

Walk this Wing (...or how a fantasy almost got me rejected by Harvard)

Walk this Wing (...or how a fantasy almost got me rejected by Harvard)...more