In case you missed it, Tim Cook publicly came out in an essay featured in Businessweek. I have to admit, the first thing I thought was, “Don’t we all know that already?” Then, as I read on, I realized that I might have only learned of his being gay via the LGBT news outlets I follow. Then I remembered, I’d never heard a report of him going “on the record” and coming out publicly....more
I am a lesbian and have always been a lesbian. At the same time I have had girlfriends who have come out later in life as lesbians and who have come out as bisexuals. (I wish to add that I have not had that many)!Having been a lesbian for 15 years + (not wanting to show my age too much) I wanted to answer some questions that have been asked of me and my partners over the years. I also want to add that these are questions that those in the LGBT community often worry about themselves. ...more
For some, coming out at work is big news and has potentially serious consequences. In the case of Jason Collins, the NBA player who recently came out, it was international news. Fortunately, he got mostly positive responses. I didn't know what would happen when I recently came out at my small office... ...more
A few weeks ago, while my #23til23 challenge was in full swing, I mentioned how I had written a letter to my extended family, coming out as both a lesbian and a blogger. I never actually finished editing the letter, and I never actually sent it, but the letter has been lurking in the back of my mind (and notebook), waiting to be sent....more
I remember the first time I said it.
It was late on a Saturday night and I had just taken a shower and was staring at myself in the bathroom mirror and I said, "I am a lesbian."
I had never been attracted to a woman and had never questioned my sexuality but then I was and I did and that's how I found myself looking into that mirror, alone with my realization.
I spent a little time bargaining...maybe it was just this woman...maybe I was just lonely...maybe I was bored.
Jodie Foster came out during her Golden Globe speech last night.Twitter and Facebook exploded as the LGBTQ community dissected her every word, gesture and the fact that it took her 50 years (well, say 30.) The straight community pretty much said "what the hell is she talking about?" and/or "wait, Jodie Foster wasn't out yet?"There's no "right" way for a celebrtiy to come out. A rambling speech on live television is one approach. An obituary like Sally Ride is another. People Magazine. 60 Minutes. Barbara Walters. New York Times. Sometimes we cheer, sometimes we jeer. ...more
I chose to live a transparent life, to come "out" as a sex blogger because I believe being out is a safer place to be than being in the closet. Make no mistake, I'm no altruist; I do what I do because doing it makes my situation better than not doing it. The reason I am so strongly supportive of other people choosing to live an open life is solely because coming out of the closet is a vaccine against blackmail, emotional abuse, and shame.